Are You Still There?

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When author, Lisa Genova, wrote “Still Alice” she was hoping to

express the feelings of someone who had early onset Alzheimer’s

Disease. Julianne Moore is up for an Academy Award for her

authentic performance as Alice, someone who wishes to be still

heard and recognized, whether or not she is able to reciprocate

the recognition back to the greeter or family member.

Julianne is a gifted actress who studied and met many people

who were struggling with the challenge of having this disease.

There is a genuine quality I feel while watching her in any of her

various roles. I had recently watched “What Maisey Knew,” and

had mentioned this in the Golden Globes post which held a trio

of events which were meant to cheer the reader up. She played

a rock and roll star who was going on tour, putting her little

kindergartner on the back burner of her life. This has other good

actors and actresses in the movie. It is just my recent movie with

her in it. The one you may wish to seek out at the theaters is

called, “Still Alice.”

Julianne Moore, in an interview in the recent January/February

paper “AARP Bulletin,” she shared her experience of meeting both

caregivers and those who have A. D.  When she met some of the

victims of this ravaging disease she said they still had not lost

their own identities yet. “They were still present.” That is the point

of the title of both movie and book, sort of like saying, “I am still

here.”

Julianne Moore’s thoughts about “Still Alice:”

“People have been so touched by it (the film). There’s a great deal

of shame associated with Alzheimer’s Disease.” (Especially, she

focused and mentioned early onset A. D.)

“Suddenly you have your intellectual capacity diminished at such

a young age, it is embarrassing.”

On the  front page of the January/February “AARP Bulletin” there

are a series of rows of black and white photographs of famous

people who have dealt with and some passed away with, this topic

of Alzheimer’s Disease.

Here is a list of those faces featured:

President~ Ronald Reagan

Author~ Iris Murdoch

Singer~ Perry Como

Secretary of State~ Cyrus Vance

Boxer~ Floyd Patterson

Artist~ Willem De Kooning

Actor~ Beloved Jimmy Stewart

Prime Minister~ Margaret Thatcher

Senator~ William Proxmire

Singer~ The fabulous Etta James

Action Star~ Charles Bronson

Actor~ Peter Falk (“Columbo”)

“Washington Post” editor and journalist, Ben Bradley

Advice Columnist~ Abigail Van Buren of “Dear Abby”

Actor~ The legendary Charleston Heston

Go ahead and add a first or complete name of someone you know.

The numbers and cases are soaring. . . but the funding is dwindling.

Inside the January/February “AARP Bulletin,”  you will find the

devastating facts about this rampant disease.

Including an estimated 5.2 million Americans had this in 2014.

Two/thirds (2/3rds) were women.

The poignant article covering this topic is titled,

“Where’s the War on Alzheimer’s?”  by T. R. Reid.

I have not seen the movie, “Still Alice,” so I am not reviewing it

just featuring it to go along with the AARP information.

Interestingly enough, I sought out the Academy Award-nominated

historical trio of films I have mentioned in other posts. I chose not

to see (yet) “Wild,”  since Reese Witherspoon’s  mother and  the

author of the book, “Wild,” dealt with the deaths of mothers. Reese

used her own mother’s younger self’s angst and her vague childhood

memories of her mother crying over her grandmother’s death as her

inspiration for her portrayal. I was not ‘ready’ to sob or think about

the frailty of life, especially with my mother still here. It will be an

inevitable sorrow I will face someday.

My mother has not been diagnosed with A. D. but has been told her

memory loss is due to low thyroid levels. She is on her medication

and I am doubtful she will ever recuperate fully in her mind. She

is ‘still there,’ most of the afternoon and evening. Sometimes doing

strange and forgetful things so I was not yet prepared to watch,

“Still Alice,” nor read the book.   I will someday.  I  strongly will

recommend the Oscar-nominated film, as both critics and audiences

have found it a true testament to the spirit of those who have A. D.

I think the reason that I respect the movie and subject matter of

“Still Alice,” is due to my working experience of four years as the

Activity Director (1995-999) at a local nursing home. I had taken

the necessary coursework to be prepared to handle all sorts of

debilitating diseases, especially learning about aging processes,

including Alzheimer’s Disease.

I wish all people to treat the elderly, whether or not they know them,

with respect and dignity. Each has such fascinating lives, simple and

complicated lives to share with us. Their stories may not be famous

but they come to life, once you take the time to listen to them.

I still enjoy meeting the few elderly inhabitants of  my building,

having made friends with “Dee” who is in her 70’s,  yet is a helpful

volunteer driver for “Meals on Wheels.” “Delores” tells me rambling

stories about her childhood. I enjoy the one where she dressed up

a piglet to be her ‘baby’ and placed him in her mother’s perambulator

(baby carriage) to take him for a ride! My apartment building has

adults with Special Needs and Ohio Wesleyan University students

here also. I am blessed with many different people housed within.

There is a Dayton, Ohio caregiver and daughter of a mother who

has A. D. and she has a short list of good ideas, to spark ones of

your own to add here in the comments’ section:

1. To get her mother to wear disposable underwear for incontinence,

she calls this her ‘girdle.’ I can picture her saying, “Mom, let’s put on

your girdle” as she helps her to get dressed everyday.

2. She grew tired of arguing with her mother and struggling with her

to take her medicines so she pushes the pills into the soft filling of

her mother’s favorite cookies, fig bars.

3. She incorporates her mother’s past interests and occupation into

her daily routines, crocheting and using a simple math workbook,

(she had been an accountant.)

4. Her mother and she enjoy lighting the candle she bought at Yankee

Candle, called “Sparkling Snow.” It also masks odors at certain times

of the day, she delicately added.

The article inside Jan./Feb. “AARP Bulletin,” was the source for this

information, along with several other suggestions called,  “Being a

Family Caregiver Isn’t Easy.” You will find more to read there. . .

I am encouraging an Open Forum for discussing about anyone

you love or care about, those you have contact with or have

experienced dealing with Alzheimer’s Disease.

I would also like to mention a fellow blogger who writes about this

very subject. Marylin is someone who shares daily wonderful and

meaningful activities she participates with her mother. She writes

such lovely posts about her mother. Her mother has dementia and

her father had Alzheimer’s Disease.

Thank you, Marylin Warner for the gift of numerous special posts.

Marylin includes links to articles and is very informative, while

being a warm and caring blogging friend to many. I am sure she is

a source of comfort to many who have been dealing with elderly

family members with different varying degrees of memory loss.

http://warnerwriting.wordpress.com

Her blog is called, “Things I Want to Tell My Mother.”

And due to not being able to produce another award nomination

post so quickly after my last one, I would like to thank Rashmi for

her nominating me for “Sisterhood of the World Bloggers Award.”

I encourage you to read about her perspective, positive and poetic

writing along with her international travels. I have enjoyed her

safari posts immensely! Thank you for taking us on your travels,

as well as lifting our spirits, Rashmi!

Please check out, Soul n Spirit, if you have not already done so!

http://soulnspiritblog.com

A sincere thank you for giving me the award!

On a lighter and happier note about those who are ‘still here’

sending a huge hug, big smiles and lots of love out to

BETTY WHITE!

Happy 93rd Birthday, dear BETTY!

I had a comment that Ian made about a poem/story about

a couple who met in a nursing home. They shared so much

of their present time, although the woman could not tell much

about her past due to her memory loss. It was such a well-

written post that I would hope future visitors will check it out:

Please read Ian’s post titled, “George and Marg” on:

http://aussieian.wordpress.com

Thank you, Ian!

Let’s have a conversation here since it is the weekend.

I plan on being able to respond on Sunday

after the library opens at noon!

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48 responses »

  1. I see this often. It’s one of the most difficult things of my job. Seeing what Alzheimer’s does to a person, and to the people who love this person. It is a wicked and cruel disease. I don’t know if I could go watch a movie about it. Part of me wants to. Part of me doesn’t. It’s so prevalent in the world I work in….I know it’s reality.

    • I am with you and waiting to see this. I almost will need to see it by myself in my little apartment. I cried at “Unknown” a lot, I cried a little at “Theory of Everything” but it is a triumph over the disease of ALS, and I wept at the end of “The Imitation Game.”
      Tonight, Colleen, I have a movie date with a guy friend, Gary, who writes for the Columbus Dispatch sports section. We are going to see “Birdman.” NO CRYING, (I hope!)
      I really admire your work and how you handle so many aspects of life, all across the spectrum and you try and share some of it, which is just the ‘tip of the iceberg’ of what you do, Colleen. Thanks for this comment, I am agreeing with you. I shall wait…

      • Have fun tonight!!!! (last night I think….). Some movies I definitely prefer to see on my own. And lately, when it comes to some movies, I don’t even know if I can handle the emotional trauma of them. I’ll have to see…..

      • I ended up writing a post, not the movie I had hoped for but was actually very good one. I got sick as I cried so much during the movie, Colleen, I developed a headache. Once home, I threw up. It was not the food, since it was a simple Campbell’s chicken soup I ate… the connection between my contact longer wear and headaches occurs about once a month. I felt bad since Gary asked if I wanted to go out for coffee. I just was glad I made it home before I got sick!

    • Anneli, thanks so much for telling me about liking the book and how it touched you, too. I agree, this kind of story is right up my alley, I enjoy reading books about things, sometimes more than seeing them on the big screen. I have cried at three movies already this year, (The Theory for Everything, The Imitation Game and Unknown- which came from a book about Louis Zamperini) Then I cried for several last year, too.(Dallas Buyers Club and 12 years a Slave, which came from an old, original story about a slave.) I agree, this subject is a good one to open other’s eyes and become more understanding, Anneli.

  2. I think it’s a frightening topic for all of us who are getting to the top side of our 50s, Robin, have those moments when words and facts don’t pop immediately to mind as quickly as they did in the past. Normal? The start of something more serious? Thanks for this post.

    • You are such a great one to come to the ‘heart of the matter,’ Mark! Yes, when we get forgetful it does sort of trigger some worries and concerns. Is this the beginning of dementia/Alzheimer’s Disease or is it just a part of the aging process. Wonderful that you are able to capture this all in your comment. Thanks so much!

    • I used to worry about this too, Mark, as my formerly sharp brain gets a bit duller every year it seems. I voiced this concern to a friend of mine whose mother died from Alzheimer’s disease and she said, don’t worry, it’s not when you can’t find the keys, it’s when you don’t know what the keys are for. Wow, that put it in perspective for me.

  3. I have read the book and I also just recently saw a short for the movie which was very powerful – just watching Julianne Moore’s performance. I will see the movie. We have a family member with Alzheimer’s, rapidly advancing now. He recently went into a secure complex to live and suffers from paranoia and hallucinations. We know it won’t be long now before he is completely gone. We have done a good part of our grieving and said our goodbyes to the man we once knew and now support with love and encourage him to live with as much quiet dignity as possible. It is a long death.

    • I can imagine this being very hard on your family. I appreciate your sharing about his life, sorry that it is rapidly advancing and hope that he enjoys some of the activities they hold in his secure complex. Music and pets were things I used to connect with some of the residents where I worked. Not many people know but the position of activity director is responsible for all there to have some kind of weekly and often daily activities. I wrote Care Plans for over 300 people with such diverse interests and had to document about these in reports. We had quarterly meetings with family members. I loved holding their hands and sometimes, there would be some kind of thought or appearance of recognition. I would be called by daughter’s, sister’s and wive’s names.
      Pauline, thanks for telling me you read the book and recommend it. I am always happy when I can have more verification than just an article about a subject! I felt those painful words, “It is a long death.”

  4. Robin, you’ve done an excellent job sharing the maybe books, movies, and details of Alzheimer’s and dementia. When my dad was first diagnosed with A.D., I attended seminars, read articles and books, sat in on nurse/caregiver classes. The main thing I learned is this: Alzheimer’s will eventually kill a patient as it affects organs; dementia will not (unless a person with advanced dementia continues to drive, etc. and is harmed.) If I could choose between the two–which obviously I cannot–I would choose dementia. In my parents’ cases, Alzheimer’s carried the “rage stage” off and on for my dad’s entire 7+ years, and changed his personality drastically and at times violently. My mother’s dementia is quite different. As it advances, she moves back farther and farther in time; currently (she’s 96) she is clearest as a child on the family farm in Missouri, with her chores and adventures and learning to garden and cook. She rarely remembers who she is now or who we are, but her calm, caring, gentle personality is still the same.
    I do not want her great-grandchildren to remember her only as she is now. I want them to know the good, funny, helpful, amazing woman of faith she was before the dementia, and so the stories I write in the blog are for them, an introduction and reminder of their wonderful great-grandmother.

    • Thank you, Marylin, for this more complete explanation of the differences of dementia and Alzheimer’s Disease. I was a little less sure on the subject as I started to write. I appreciate your sharing the way you feel about A. D. and dementia. I sometimes feel my Mom must have dementia, but no one has labeled her such.
      I get so much from your posts and stories, including the way you read to your mother. Songs, poems and books read aloud are very comforting with my Mom, too.
      And, thanks for your compliment to my ‘barely there, skeleton post,’ which pales in comparison to all that both these diseases encompass. Aging isn’t for sissies, is one of my favorite lines (and when I was a parent I said the same thing about parenting, ha ha!)

    • Thanks, sweetie, you are so nice to have written this comment. I am back-tracking since I was not able to use library, closed on Monday due to MLK, Jr. day. On Sunday, I ran in and posted but didn’t do much catching up.
      I appreciate you finding this to be ‘touching,’ as you have a sensitive soul, I feel. I enjoy how you share your stories, along with your jewelry in your posts!

  5. Julianne Moore was interviewed about her role in “Still Alice” on NPR on Friday, Jan. 16th. She talked about meeting the woman who was the inspiration for the film and what she drew on to make her character relatable. It is scary to think about losing your memory. To lose that capacity gradually has to be even more alarming.

    The last few months of my Dad’s life, my brother observed that Dad was experiencing memory lapses. Dad was nearly 92 when he died in 2011. It was sad to see this happen to a man with such a sharp mind.

    I enjoyed your post on this topic and Marilyn Warner’s posts as well.

    • I am so glad you read Marylin’s posts, since she is a very fine blogger. I am always learning something to try with my own Mom, who is still not diagnosed but tends to be more and more forgetful. From the definitions Marylin mentioned, I feel she may be developing dementia. So far we just don’t really want to label her, since a doctor has not yet.

      I am glad your Dad lived to almost 92, Judy! What an outstanding life he must have led, since you mention he had a sharp mind. I am sure it would be hard no matter his age, to see his mind slipping away though.

      I appreciate your also sharing about Julianne Moore’s interview, Judy.It means a lot that they had her meet the woman who was the inspiration for the movie. This supports the belief I have that this movie is worth recommending. I will see it someday, not sure when I will be ready or ‘in the mood.’ I saw “Schindler’s List,” waiting to see it at home, instead of on the big screen. I was glad I waited, although it was a very meaningful and excellent movie. Sometimes, subjects are best taken in ‘chunks’ of time. For me, havign had a Grandmother who had told me many stories first of Germany and then, of New York City, where she lived within the German community, I needed to watch, pause and re-wind “Schindler’s List.”
      I feel, “Still Alice,” with my Mom’s mind slowly changing and some of her ‘marbles’ lost, I may need to watch this one at home, when I am ready, Judy!

    • I should have known this about your mother, Beth. I either forgot or didn’t know this. Thank you for telling me. I am sure it will be a fantastic movie, she is a gifted actress! I am sure it will have both sad and meaningful messages, along with uplifting characters. I really want to see it, but I have cried at four out of four movies, seen this year so may wait on this one! It would be a great one to rent from the library.
      I have joined the wait list for “Boyhood” and “Grand Budapest Hotel.” I have only one person ahead of me for “Amadeus.” I really want to see this one again, in light of the new thoughts of his sister’s possible influence. I want to see who they cast as his family members, too. Thanks, Beth, for your valued comments!

  6. I read the book and found it harrowing but powerful. Alzheimer’s and Dementia runs in my family and I have played the role of caregiver. I know what it is like to lose someone who had ‘no memories’ of a life well lived 😦 I think it is important that we keep spreading the message and more movies and books etc should be produced on the subject. Thank you for sharing this post Robin.

    • Yolanda, thanks so much for sharing your personal stories here. I did not know this about a few of the commenters today. I am a little behind on reading, went briefly Sat. and Sun. to library and then, MLK, Jr. day meant the library was closed. I am very thankful there are more people making movies about this and I did like Julie Christy’s last movie which had her being forgetful and her husband trying valiantly to take care of her. I felt that James Garner and the movie, “The Notebook,” showed the combative role of James Garner’s wife, I shall have to get off this page to look and add her name… she did a great job in her portrayal of Alzheimer’s Disease. Shoot, she had blonde hair and is famous…

    • Gena Rowlands did a fantastic job showing how a person who feels close to her husband while listening to him read to her their own love story, but as the day goes by, her memory fades and she thinks he is a ‘stranger’ to her, hitting him. I think she got nominated for awards, but unsure if she won. Julie Christy also got nominated for her role, too.

  7. Although it was difficult to read because of my mother, I loved Still Alice. I had no idea a movie was made based on the book. Thanks for keeping me in the loop, Robin. Another book dealing with the topic of Alzheimer’s is called, Slow Dancing. I haven’t read it yet, but I read an article about the author, in AARP.

    • I am always grateful when I get a book recommendation, Jill. I am glad you mentioned you loved this book, which places it high up on my need to read soon list! I will watch the movie, when I can get it from the library. I have been putting myself on wait lists, one is a short one for Amadeus, others are for “Boyhood,” “Jersey Boys,” and “Grand Budapest Hotel” (I believe there are 90 ahead of me for this new release! ha ha! There were several meaningful historic movies I saw and I felt that I could wait on this personal story, which may or may not need the big screen to capture the depth of feelings expressed.
      I will keep “Slow Dancing” on the list in my purse, too! Thanks, Jill!

  8. Have you read Still Alice? Such a terrifying book! And yet not particularly well written. Kind of odd that it’s so compelling! I didn’t know there’s a movie!

    • I have not read the book, which I mentioned just now to Jill, that I would like to read it. She says she loved it, Luanne. Is it because we are aging that we fear this book?

      I am sure my reason is that I fear it for my Mom. The movie came out late in the year and got nominated for several awards. Thank you for saying “Still Alice” is not well written but is compelling anyway,

      I liked Gena Rowlands in the schmaltzy movie, with James Garner and she portraying the older couple from “The Notebook.” They are the older version of the young couple’s love story that Nicholas Sparks wrote about. The scene where she starts hitting her husband and doesn’t recognize him despite the fact she spent the day with him is really frightening.
      A better, quieter movie is out there with Julie Christy slowly loosing her memory, her husband valiantly tries to take care of her, but finally she is placed in a safer environment. She was nominated for an Academy Award for this role, she really is quite beautiful, my favorite and more famous role she played was in “Dr. Zhivago,” of course. I shall look up what the name of this movie (I got it from the library and have now forgotten its name, watched it about a year ago.)
      Thank you, Luanne, for your comment and adding to the conversation. Always glad to have a variety of perspectives.

  9. I read the book a while ago. It was a harrowing read especially as i lost my Dad to dementia a few years ago. However, books like this help to promote these dreadful diseases so I’m all for promoting awareness. I hope the film does the book justice ( which I didn’t think was badly written) – so often films water down the original story.

    • I think it is such a great thing to know how you and Luanne felt the book was not particularly well written, but also feel it is still a valuable one to read.
      I am saddened to know of your Dad’s dementia. I lost my Dad to cancer, in only 4 short months, but we were able to communicate and share before we lost him. He even made a bucket list, which included going one more time on a huge roller coaster!
      I think you have a valid point about movies losing some of the books’ content and meaning. I do believe that Julianne Moore is a great actress, have seen her do well in a wide variety of roles. Hope the screenplay is even better than the book. Thanks for letting me know about how you felt about the book.
      Jenny, I appreciate knowing your personal story and loss of your father. It helps so I won’t say something stupid, like “Happy Father’s Day” or something like that. Details between bloggers help to build stronger friendships, too.

    • I feel I only gave a brief description of a complicated medical and emotionally charged disease. I appreciate your saying thanks for what I posted, Elizabeth. I hope the movie will be good, I believe she is a fantastic actress and seems to carry her roles out well. Julianne Moore makes the characters realistic in her portrayal. Thanks for your feeling this was worthwhile reading, Elizabeth.

  10. Thank you so much for your kind words Robin. I actually owe to you to make me exist here. So grateful to you and blessed to have you here as my guide and a dear friend. I pray to Almighty for your mother, I haven’t seen the movie, now it is at first priority. 🙂

    • I really am deeply moved, Rashmi. I am hoping that my words are worthy of such special tributes.
      I am glad to have you in my circle of friends, you are one who really shows me a lot about yourself and the world. I like how you are teaching people where you live, we have that in common, although I don’t teach anymore. You are touching lives and building their characters, their futures on your tours. I hope more and more people will come to visit you, see how special you are and stay.
      I have not seen this movie, so just recommending it, since it sounds good. A few people had different opinions about the book.
      Thank you for not minding that I did not make a new awards post. Your post was so sweet, thank you for my nomination again. Bless you, Rashmi.

      • There is nothing like minding or feel bad about anything when the relations are based on feelings and liking for each other. We might have not met in person but the warmth of your words and blessings surely touches my soul, it fills my heart with love.

  11. This book was one of my book club selections a few years ago. A very powerful read, I highly recommend it. I have occasion now to regularly visit a nursing home where many are in early stages of dementia. It troubles me that so many of them seem to be anxious or upset about something when I can see that they are being cared for quite well. What must be going on in their heads?

    • I agree, the place I worked was very nice, people and staff were very considerate. Even so, some residents were agitated. It must be part of the diseases they have, in their minds. I am a lifelong ‘worrier’ my Dad said I had ‘an old soul’ and also would tell me, “Your guilty conscience would convict you in a court of law.” Even as a child! I don’t know if it is due to being the oldest, if I were a reincarnated ‘bad’ person or just me. I am laughing just a little with the way you put the question, Barb! ha ha!

    • By the way, Barb, you have such a generous and giving heart! Not only turtles and lost dogs do you rescue but you rescue elderly people’s spirits and lift them up! Thank you for cheering the elderly, regularly.
      My Mom used to take her dog she has now, Nicki, and an older dog she had then, who helped ‘tame’ Nicki, to a nursing home. She got permission from the director, which made her feel useful. She had to put Cassie down, when she was in pain and there wasn’t any simple surgery to save her. She was a rescued Sheltie. Mom liked to hold people’s hands, which I had to tell her to take anti-bacterial lotion because she did not realize the things some of those hands would do. She learned to wash her hands in some of their bathrooms, too. They sure loved seeing her two dogs, Barb!
      I am smiling again at your last comment. . .

  12. I watched my father gradually dwindle to a shadow of his formal self due to the ravages of Parkinson’s Disease of which dementia is a part. I think most of us that are of a certain age have been directly or indirectly connected to someone affected by AD or something similar. It is a harsh reminder that our time is limited and we may be the next one affected, or eventually so.

    My heart goes out to the caregivers that have the love, compassion and patience to help someone maintain their dignity as their mind is gradually taken from them. – Mike

    • I am so thankful for your sharing the personal story of your father, Mike. I wish this would not have had to happen to one of your family members. My ex-husband, when we got married at the young age of 22, had a mother who already had the ravages of Parkinson’s going on. I felt so bad for her, since she was an artist and a teacher. She ended up not being able to do either of these fine activities. I still have one of her paintings, as my oldest daughter gave it to me to remember her by. I feel so much for my ex, the one who really was just to young to be a husband or father, anyway, his sister, brother, father and mother are all gone now. I am blessed with both brothers and my Mom. (Never had a sister to lose, but have many good friends I consider sisters.) I have not had to deal with anything but my Mom’s gradual decline in her thinking abilities. Those who are caregivers are angels on Earth, Mike!

  13. A very interesting post and thought provoking subject Robin, Altheimers and Dementia is a sad debilitating illness, I have written on this subject before and in light of your post, have reposted my story again, it is pure fiction but as you can see, it has numerous similarities to the points you made in your post, hope you have time to read it, its titled George and Marge.
    Regards
    Ian

    • I will go over and read it, tonight, Ian. I was not able to use a computer since I go to the library. Our country was celebrating Martin Luther King, Jr. and many public buildings and postal service were not operating.
      Thanks for letting me know you found this interesting, Ian!

    • Ian, if you check the next to last paragraph of my post, I rewrote it to include your blog and your story, it was so realistic and detailed. It was a wonderful and meaningful poem, story and so heartwarming! Thank you so very much for re-blogging it so I could find it more easily! Smiles, Robin

      • Thank you Robin for finding my story worth sharing on your site, you honour my efforts in writing, the subject is very topical as noted by your followers.
        You are to be commended for submitting a blog on this debilitating illness.
        Ian

  14. Alzheimer’s Disease is heart-breaking for the loved ones who want to be remembered and held close. Did you see St. Vincent? (http://stvincentfilm.com) Bill Murray’s wife in that didn’t remember him, so he dressed as a doctor. That way she would not be nervous having him come in, sit with her and ask about her health. It was precious.

    • I am looking forward to seeing this movie, should put myself on the wait list. I wish I had been able to see it at the theater. It looks very well done, one where Melissa McCarthy is not over the top in her comedic abilities, a single mother with a crazy neighbor, Bill Murray. I would like to see this soon. Maybe the redbox? Thanks, Brenda, for letting us know there is a part about the wife having dementia or A.D. and how he handles it sounds perfect! Hugs, Robin

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