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The song, “Amie,” sung by Pure Prairie League haunts me, sometimes.

I tend to sing it aloud, to my friend and coworker, Amy D. She is quite

a lovely individual with a lot of character. She reminds me of what my

Grandfather Mattson would say about a spunky person,

“She has a lot of ‘spit and vinegar!'”

I may still have a few people interested in my coworker’s personal life.

I have to tell you just a little bit more about PPL, which is sometimes the

way that mentioned band, went by, ‘in the day.’ Their roots are from a

town called, Waverly, Ohio. They headed to Columbus, where they first

recorded songs. They view Cincinnati, Ohio as their ‘first successful show.’

They have had a ‘long run,’ starting playing together in the 70’s, taking a

break after the 80’s, then ‘reviving’ again in the 90’s and finally touring

and doing up to 100 shows still in 2013.

Craig Fuller’s song, “Amie,” is an ‘ode’ to an on-again/off-again relationship.

The words go like this, (don’t they seem appropriate to Amy’s relationship

with her Roy?)

“Amie, what you gonna do?

I think I could stay with you…

For awhile, maybe longer if I do.”

(That first line, by the way comes out like this: “what ‘cha’ gonna do?”)

 

Amy seemed frazzled and confused, when I caught up to her on Wednesday.

She had been in a completely different part of the building doing her job

as a Cycle Counter. When I ran into her in the bathroom, around my second

break, I checked the row of stalls for feet. I wanted to get ‘right down to it,’

and ask her about her weekend and possible conversation about why Roy

doesn’t kiss her. He will rub her feet and back, along with enjoying an

intimate relationship with her.

She was ‘feeling down and discouraged,’ she said.

On Friday, July 25th, she had made a nice dinner after she had gone from

work, straight out to the stables, walked and fed both Spirit and Lokie, then

had brushed their coats, talking to them. She calls this her ‘unwinding time,’

also on other occasions I have heard her say that her horses are her ‘therapy

sessions.’ Aptly put, I feel. Animals are good listeners and they accept us for

who we are!

Amy brought up the subject, she admits, “Too quickly into the meal.”

She told me that she “had held her tongue all week,” and was “fed up with

all this waiting for Roy to be ‘in the mood’ to talk.”

Roy told her frankly that he had been concerned that he was her ‘rebound

relationship.’ He also told her he wished his sister had ‘waited to introduce

them.’ He feels that Amy was so excited to have anyone pay attention to her,

that she had leaped into bed with him. Lastly, she heard him express his

serious concerns about her adult children who seem to have a negative

impression of him. This has made him “hold back on really caring about

you, Amy.”

When she had told me all about this conversation, which was mainly his

side of the story, she did not tell me too much about what words she chose

to use, since we were in a ‘hurry’ to avoid any interruptions and to get to

sit down in the break room. For me, to watch the silly soap opera for the

15 allotted minutes of relaxation before heading back to where I was working.

I knew she had gotten quiet, waiting on my reactions.

I told her that I had ‘good feelings’ about how he told her his honest feelings

and that he was more open than he had been in the past. I also, hesitantly,

agreed with Roy. I told her that did not mean I felt that she and he should not

kiss, or move forward in a positive way. He was definitely a kind and supportive

person, from the way she described him. She has lost almost 30 pounds, in less

than 6 months, with his advice to eat more vegetables and also, his choosing

leaner cuts of meats to grill out. I told her that I did not get the impression that

Roy was ‘using her.’ I also told her the points about her just being divorced,

her being ‘vulnerable’ and also, the negative way those kids had blamed her,

despite her ex-husband marrying again, as soon as the ink dried on the papers,

made ME mad. I could just imagine Roy’s angry feelings at them, too.

Amy surprised me by telling me that she proceeded after dinner, to go to a

girlfriend’s house.

I asked her, “Was this to ‘process what you had heard Roy say?’

Amy looked a little embarrassed, she said that she had had a very bad reaction

to what he had said, “I felt like he was attacking first me, then my ex, and then,

my kids!”

I could see it from a more neutral place, but I could see me in my younger days,

doing the same thing!

“So, I have to know, Amy, how did the weekend go?”

This could have been edited or possibly made ‘prettier’ but I choose to let you

know, Amy told him in another way, that she ‘wanted to break up:’

“You may as well get your ass out of my life, Roy!”

You can imagine my surprise!

I told her that maybe someday their paths would intertwine, that their feelings

would be more mature when she was ready for a relationship.

She interrupted me, by saying,

“I just don’t see how he will ever forgive my over-reacting to his analysis of my

life!”

“Everything is personal. If he cares about you, doesn’t want to be a ‘rebound

relationship,’ he will give you time. Everyone says things they don’t mean,

Amy. Believe me, every one of the long-term men in my life, whether I broke

up with them, or they broke up with me, all ended up on my doorstep once

again. You will just have to decide if you want him back again. Believe me,

this isn’t over!”

“Amy, what you going to do?” (I sang to her.)

She answered, in a singsong way,

“Move to South Dakota with my horses!”

 

Somehow, I don’t think that is the ending of this!

 

Thanks again, for all of your opinions, personal stories, along with examples

from friends that you knew about whether or not, kissing is a ‘deal-breaker.’