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Join Me for a ‘Spell’

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When my grandmother would ask me to “Come and sit for a spell,”

this meant we would gaze out at the back yard and enjoy the view.

Sometimes, it would take awhile but there would be words shared

and some little fragment of a story, which meant I would have to

gently pull the rest of her thoughts out. Asking questions and then,

waiting. I had a quiet, gentle grandmother who lived with us from

when I was only three years old up until I was a sophomore in

high school. She had what people call, the ‘mother in law’ suite.

 

Eveline was her name and she grew up in Cincinnati, Ohio with

a few tendencies to use Kentucky or Tennessee expressions. Did

any of your grandparents or parents use the words, ‘sit a spell?’

 

Spell is such an interesting word. Here is a current definition of

it  with a few of my own little ‘takes’ on this fun wordplay and

word analysis. I hope you will add your  favorite interpretation

of “spell” in the comments’ section.

 

The vastness and variation of the definitions for “spell” are

amazing. I started this with only three actual uses and found

out there is so much more dimension to the word.

 

“spell”

noun-

1. a spoken word or form of words held to have magic power.

2. a state of enchantment.

3. strong, compelling influences or attraction.

4. a short indefinite period of time.

5. a period of weather of a particular kind.

6. one’s turn at a task or work.

 

verb-

1. orally recite the letters or give the spelling of a word.

2. to relieve someone from work, by taking a turn.

3. to allow someone to rest awhile.

 

I am especially fond of the sitting in a rocking chair, sipping lemonade

with a relative or friend, and pondering while not in any rush to finish

the conversation. Time passing slowly, like the image which is often

used, ‘watching the grass grow.’

 

I enjoy movies where you can see, through the director’s guidance

and the film crew’s efforts, the ‘exact moment’ someone is caught

in a ‘spell.’ I even like the idea of someone’s falling in love and

calling their first meeting, ‘magical.’

 

There have been many love songs, where there are descriptions

of the initial meeting, the spell being cast and the enchanted couple

finding this memorable. Details during the meeting come back and

are mentioned again and again, to children and others who like to

know ‘how it all began.’ It can include, “She bewitched me.”

 

“Strange Magic,” was a fantastic and beautiful animated children’s

film. Of course, there are many songs in it, including the Electric

Light Orchestra’s song, “Strange Magic.” There is a bright purple

bottle which contains a “love spell” from captured fairy, “Tinkerbell.”

It contains purple blossoms from the flowers on the edge of the

forest. They are ‘forbidden’ to be picked. Micah, my oldest daughter,

Carrie and I saw this on Sunday evening.

 

I was surprised at all the different songs that were included in the

children’s movie, all popular ones from the 70’s. George Lucas directed

this film. There were several adult couples holding hands and giggling

at the antics in the movie filled with elves, fairies, and evil grasshopper-

looking king of the “dark forest.”

 

 

Please share a name of a song and include the group or individual

who performs it.

 

Another use of the word ‘spell’ I heard at a quilting bee, one where

I was a guest and enjoyed watching the ladies working together.

One of the women asked me to ‘spell’ her on some of the stitches

and watched me, giving me suggestions and compliments on my

even stitches. Have you ever used the word, “spell” to take a turn?

 

One of my favorite uses of the word “spell” was in the classroom usage.

I enjoyed having “Spelling Bees,” while I was a young teacher. I would

buy candy bars and give them to the ‘top’ spellers. I also would give the

classroom popcorn for good behavior while participating in the ‘bee.’

 

Later, when I had a daughter who ‘hated’ spelling, since we think she

missed out on my ‘spelling gene,’ I realized this may not always have

been such a fun way to practice spelling. It is embarrassing to those

who are either shy or are not able to spell.  The only ‘comfort’ would

be that sometimes those who spell well, cannot do well in math.

 

This math knowledge skill my oldest daughter had inherited  from her

father, I tried to promote and encourage.The balancing out the ones

who could do math with the ones who could spell, still has a few who

are not successful in either case.

 

I would admit to my Language Arts classes, I ‘hated’ the game of

“Around the World,” when I was in school. This game played off

two students,  one who was standing and the other sitting at their

desk.

 

The teacher would ‘flash’ a problem and the other would have to

give the correct answer to be able to move around the classroom.

If unable to be quick with your response or give the wrong answer

and you would be ‘bested’ by another student, taking their seat.

I used ‘flash cards’ for spelling and math, along with ‘sight words,’

when I babysat all those years. I think practicing and keeping my

children and my ‘clients’ caught up during the summertime really

helps close the ‘gap’ while they are still enjoying recreation. I

always rewarded everyone or would just encourage clapping for

the right answer. Either way, I stopped giving ‘better’ prizes to the

ones who were successful.

 

This is now called in education, “intrinsic rewards.” They ‘know

inside themselves,’ they can do their tasks or skills. Being happy

you are successful will get you far in life, since not always are

there rewards. Teaching this lesson early is a good way to be

promoting self-worth, too.

 

I think all of us can relate to the idea of ‘dry spells,’ in our own

creative thoughts, whether we are producing books, music, art or

writing poetry to enchant our fellow bloggers.

 

In my periods of being ‘alone,’ and not dating anyone, I have been

known to be exasperated with my long, ‘dry spells’ without a man

in my life.

 

The weather usages of ‘dry spell’ and ‘rainy spells’ don’t excite me

but create important references for the weather man or woman.

They can tell us how many days in a row we have gone without any

rain or have had rain. Even though the definition ‘implies’ you can

use ‘spell’ with ‘any particular form of weather,’ I just cannot imagine

using it with snow.

 

When it comes to ‘dry spells’ you may wish to listen more closely to

the words in the America band song, “A Horse With No Rain.” I did

and it really is not ‘aimless’ at all, it has purpose to the song. I have

always loved it, but did not know it had depth and meaning to it.

 

Here is a serious “pause” in my blog:

“All of our hearts, thoughts and prayers are with you in New England

and hope you have electricity, warmth and food sources. We are very

concerned for this huge snowstorm you are weathering.”

 

Lastly, my grandkids knew how to ‘spell’ the name of their home state,

because their parents are Buckeye fans.

Let me hear the first two letters:

“O – H!”

always answered with,

“I – O!”

We play in the car, the “Give me a __” and it can go like this,

“Give me an ‘S’, then they will say the letter back to you, S!”

And we can keep on going until we spell “Skyler,” or we  may

start with a “D” and keep on going until they have chanted

the letters for “Daddy.”

Of course, if you are from another country or have not played

this shouting or chanting game, you finish with the letters and

say,

“What does that spell?”

Their reply is yelled, “______!”

I used to do this with my babysitting kids when they were all

in elementary school. It was a fun way to pass time while on a

short drive to gymnastics, the park or pool.

 

Don’t forget to let me know if you have a special song with

the word, ‘spell’ included.

Even though, “Some Enchanted Evening” (from the musical,

“South Pacific,” doesn’t mention specifically the word, “spell”

it describes what one is.)

Here are a few of the lyrics, listening to Frank Sinatra or Perry

Como singing this would make you smile and reflect on love.

Across a crowded room you will find a stranger, “you’ll see

her again and again.”

You may hear someone’s laugh and “the sound of her laughter

will sing in your dreams.”

The ending is just so sweet, I get tears in my eyes:

“Once you have found her, never let her go.”

 

Don’t forget to let me know of one of the ways, ‘spell’ may have

captured your interest or meant something to you. Sharing a

song or memory will make us all feel like the ‘spell’ worked!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Spectacular Finales

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There could have been a ‘ticker tape’ parade, fireworks or an explosion,

but none of those would have ‘beat’ the two nights of ‘back to back’

finales! If you don’t follow “The Voice” or “American Idol” you may think

this post is not meaningful, but I will tell you that if you turn your

radio on in the next month, I am guaranteeing you will hear one of the

winners singing!

I still remember ‘picking’ Carrie Underwood, Philip Phillips, David Cook

and Chris Daughtry. I chose Caleb Johnson, early in the “American Idol”

interviews and singing try-outs. He had been here once before in another

season, and he won the ‘whole she-bang’ last night.

On the show, “The Voice,” I did feel a close affinity with Josh Kaufman,

38 years old, married with three children. I could relate to his ambitions

and his enterprising spirit. I enjoyed his singing, all the way through

it, held my breath when he slipped through Adam’s fingers and got grabbed

by Usher.

I would like to tell you all about everything in my mind, but sometimes

the best way for readers to feel some excitement, is not to tell too much!

After all, you are all here on the internet, either with wordpress of a

dot come blog. You may choose to look up some of these favorites of mine

and their songs they performed. Don’t worry, many of the songs were

actually ‘older’ and recognizable songs.

Here are Robin’s Top Ten Favorite “Collaborations” on the two competitive

singing shows, “American Idol” versus “The Voice.”

TOP TEN BEST ACTS:

My #1 Favorite:

What I call the “Fabulous Foursome”

This involved the three “American Idol” judges and Randy Jackson.

When Jennifer was sitting on the Grand Piano, while Harry Connick, Jr. was

singing, it gave me goosebumps. She was singing in a sweet, childlike way,

Cyndi Lauper’s, “True Colors.” Then, when she had the audience ‘chilling’

and not expecting any kind of change, she jumped off the piano, the Fab 4

struck the beginning chords of “Go Your Own Way,” by Heart and I was not

able to sit down! I had to jump up with the ‘gang’ who I had come to

look forward to. Keith Urban and Randy Jackson jammed on their guitars,

Harry pounded the ivories on the Grand Piano and the electronic keyboard.

Jennifer Lopez’s moves were making the audience, get ‘dance fever!’

My #2 Favorite:

Malaya Watson and John Legend.

Such a beautiful treat. The song, “All of You” is so enthralling and a

true legendary love song. Check this one out, if you like traditional

piano playing and great vocals. Amazingly sweet and shows Malaya’s

ability at such a young age, too. She’s from Detroit, Michigan!

My #3 Favorite:

***KISS and Caleb Johnson***

He won and is America’s new Idol.

Wow! Hot, sizzling and rocking the house! This brought great big smiles

from usually stoic and serious Harry Connick, Jr. In fact, all three

judges were dancing their hearts out to the song. It felt like a real

love, rock and roll ‘festival!’ Such a warm and fuzzy feeling when they

called Caleb’s non-singing brother up to shake the Kiss group’s hands.

My #4 Favorite:

Paramore and Jena Irene.

They were awesome in their matching voices, blending and melodic in

their song.

Great (yellow) balls of fire and joy!

My #5 Favorite:

Jennifer Nettles and Jessica Muse.

Truly magical and fantastic pairing!

My #6 Favorite:

Ed Sheeran and Christina Grimmie, The Voice.

The song transcended time and space, “All of the Stars.”

My #7 Favorite:

Josh Kaufman (who won The Voice) with Usher, singing and possibly

improving Police’s song, “Every Breath You Take.”

My #8 Favorite was Christina Grimmie’s version of the Elvis song,

“Can’t Help Falling in Love with You.”

Now, if you wish to check out Jena Irene’s version, you may find she

did an awesome job with this song, too!

My # 9 Favorite:

Josh’s version, the night before, of Adele’s song, “Set Fire to

the Rain.”

My #10 Favorite:

Alex Preston and Jason Mraz, singing together. They performed Jason’s

new song, “Love Someone.” I liked Alex’s voice, wished he had been

able to sing more of his serious numbers. This was light and very

fun-loving, relaxed song.

The two shows gave us really great concerts with many more fantastic

moments. Hope that you will enjoy hearing some of my recommended song

collaborations with famous people with the contestants…

Who I believe will be famous themselves, someday!

Time is of the Essence!

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“Perfect Timing”

by Robin Cochran

Plane arrivals and departures,

cannot always be counted on.

The precious view from a distance

of a loved one’s approach, forgives

the inaccuracy in timing.

Dance recitals, a couple who share

their dance moves in a seamless

and singular motion.

Comedy sketches, where the comic

can deliver the powerful ‘punch

line’ with impeccable timing.

“Care packages”, sent with love,

just when you are about to get

homesick. (Away at camp or school.)

Mail arrival, when the letter and

written correspondence cheers you

up and out of a blue mood.

Money enclosures, arriving just in

time, to keep your checking account

out of the ‘red!’

Meeting someone new, either at work or

out in public, almost an ‘other worldly’

connection.

Theatre stage actors, delivering their

lines with power and strength, grasping

the audience in their timing.

New loves, when everything falls into

place, from the very first moment.

(“Across a crowded room…”)

Florist deliveries, full of pleasure and

wonderful scented arrangements that bring

apologies, in their arrival.

Musical partners or groups, who match the

beats and harmonize, while performing.

Unexpected phone calls, from distant and

long lost friends, filling in the gaps.

While moving out of or into a house,

people showing up, just when you needed

them.

Every time a hug is received…

Chores, completed within a certain rhythm

and gleefully unexpected moments.

Two cars, meeting at the same destination

arriving at the same time.

Send in the troops, the necessary back up

force while energy and strength is flagging.

Arrival of a new baby, whenever, however

unexpected it may be.

Jobs, where being there at the right place

and the right time.

The two acrobats, one ready to release from

the bar, the other ready to catch.

Home run ‘hits,’ football ‘goals,’ and other

sporting great moves!

Meals, while juggling varied dishes,

completion results in all at the same time.

Encouraging signs given, when least expected.

Some may call them, the Hand of God, Karma,

Kismet, Zen or Serendipity.

When has something in your own life, seemed

to be perfectly timed?

Faithful and True Loves

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To start this with a great big smile, I would like to say

“Happy 50th Birthday, dear Brad Pitt!” I am so glad you are

joining the “ranks” of over fifty year olds. It seems like

only yesterday that you were in “Thelma and Louise” and

breaking out as a handsome “new” actor! My, oh my! When you

took your shirt off, driving those poor women wild! And you

were 28 years old. I was 36 years old, back then. You seemed

so much younger… (By the way, Keith Richards turned 70 years

old today, on December 18, 2013.)

But now, Brad, you are only a “few” years younger and it is all

an “even playing field,” with similar aches and pains. You ‘rose

to the occasion,’ recently handling a personal trauma with your

longtime partner and mother of your children. I admire your

adopting children from many countries and also, raising your

children with a world view of life.

Angelina shared her having a double mastectomy and reconstructive

surgery, bravely to the world, with you by her side.

If we are making a list of the Twelve Days of Christmas and come

to that line, “my True Love gave to me…” We may wish to consider

that these fine men could have easily been persuaded to leave

their wives, but didn’t. They stayed with their “true loves.”

Last post, I wrote about “lying, “false advertising,” mentioned

how corporations “cheat” and sometimes break the laws… and

other ways that deceit can happen, like unfaithfulness.

I don’t count Brad Pitt in the “bad apples” pile, since he did

‘redeem himself,’ (after leaving Jennifer Anniston.) He could

not help it, as I feel anyone who has been through divorce or

a break-up can empathize. Brad Pitt had not chosen the right

love for what values and direction he was heading. It took

making a movie with Angelina Jolie to find what the world can

view as his true ‘soul mate.’ He has shown great caring as a

father and supportive partner.

My final words on Brad,(today) are I am thankful that he

helped financially support the film “12 Years a Slave” through

being one of the executive producers. He also performed in a

small part of the film, doing a fine job once again. This movie

needed to be made for all the young people in the audience that

Bill and I saw, taking in the pain, anguish and horrors of slavery.

Those of us who grew up watching the mini-series, “Roots” or seeing

the movie, “Glory,” somewhat known what the African Americans went

through during the period of slavery and the Civil War. Although,

nothing could compare to their actual experiences. I am ‘plugging’

this movie since it is now up for Globe Awards and the Academy Awards.

I am sure the Actors’ Guild Awards will have this movie on their list

of the ten best last year or it may win “Best Picture of 2013.”

I have a wonderful “nice” list of men who have been in the ‘limelight’

plus the spotlight in the media and news for a long time. This is a

list I found in the October “AARP Magazine” of men staying faithful to

their first wives. (As far as we can tell, from no media massacres,

no angry exes writing their memoirs or complaining on “The Talk.” All

the editorial comments, hopefully somewhat amusing, were written solely

by myself. I am a movie buff and most are from memory. If you have a

favorite movie or television show with one of these “good guys” in

it, let us know!

Here goes a fine list of longtime marriage partners with only one

spouse:

1. The gorgeous Andy Garcia. (“Godfather” fame, also acted as a sweet,
but disconcerted husband in the 2013 Hallmark movie, “Christmas in
Conway.” In the movie, he has a wife who has cancer and he rebuilds
the ferris wheel that he proposed to her on, while they were young.)

2. The humorous comedian and actor (I loved him in “My Girl” as
a father and mortician, also in “Driving Miss Daisy”) Dan Aykroyd.

3. Director and supporter of many causes, Spike Lee, a quirky
but handsome black man! I like a man who looks good in glasses.
My favorites are “Malcolm X” for serious material and “Crooklyn”
for a family movie. There are many more on his directors’ list.

4. Christopher Walken, can be scary but has managed to hold onto
his wife for many years! He is also funny, like on Saturday Night
Live. “Pulp Fiction” and “The Deer Hunter” are serious, but the
movie, “The Stand Up Guys” has some humorous parts.

5. “Welcome to My Nightmare,” singer and writer, Alice Cooper has
been married to his wife for many years. I still like his sensitive
song, “Only Women Bleed,” and that may explain why once he takes off
the makeup, he can possibly give his wife a back rub or foot massage.

6. Funny man, sensitive actor, (“MASH” television series, movies)
Alan Alda has been married for years on end. It would be nice to have
someone to make you laugh and yet, hold you while you cry, too. He may
have driven “Hot Lips” Houlihan nuts, but he showed a lot of compassion
on MASH, too.

7. Nolan Ryan, former Major League baseball player and an Executive
Officer for the Texas Rangers, is a “hunk” and we know the way ‘groupies’
can try to seduce athletes traveling on the road; probably just as often
as movie stars! He is still married to his first wife.

8. Jeff Bridges, raised in a family-oriented acting family, remember his
Dad on “Sea Hunt?” I liked Lloyd Bridges and Beau Bridges, too. Jeff is
still married to his first wife, has been in movies as recently as the
remake of “True Grit” and “Crazy Heart.” (Both very good but quite
different movies. In “Crazy Heart,” he won awards for his playing an
alcoholic country western singer.

9. The handsome singer and actor, Kevin Bacon, has a beautiful wife,
who just quit her role as “The Closer” (a police show on television
which I was a faithful fan of). Their marriage has stood the test of
time and spaces apart, while she was filming and Kevin stayed home
with the kids for awhile, too.

10. Martin Sheen, activist, movie actor and family man. He has been
married for quite a number of years. Raised a wild bunch of men,
including Charlie Sheen and Emilio Estevez.

Here are the last three in a group, I have run out of steam, but

give this trio a round of applause for their staying in their first

marriages without any controversy or lawsuits: Jon Bon Jovi, you

are an attractive man with a great voice, I love you, man! Glad

to see that you have made the list of “nice guys” with funny

man and actor, Jerry Stiller (whose wife, Meara made them a

famous couple/duo of comedians while I was growing up!) Last,

but certainly not least, Billy Crystal. You are one of my

favorite hosts of the Academy Awards, I liked your light

hearted comedies and hope to see more of you in the movies!

No “Fatal Attraction” news of women and affairs with any of

the above men!

Hope this balances out my negative post yesterday.

We could have some birthday cake to celebrate Brad’s 50th or

Keith’s 70th…

Or how about some Christmas goodies, while humming the song,

“12 Days of Christmas?” Now you know a few more ‘true loves!’

Fence Post Buddies

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My friend and coworker, Tammy, likes hearing about all the love stories

and my blog. I have bad news, folks, my friend Anna got fired! (She did

not use swear words, but assertive words and mouthed off to a clerk,

another coworker wrote a report, and she is fine looking for a “better

job.”) Due to our table being less crowded and a few absences, I have

a treasure of a story to share for you!

Growing up next door to each other from elementary throughout their

childhood, teen age and young adult years, Tammy always considered

Mike, her neighbor and brother of her best friend, Mary,  a good friend.

She knew all the details of their lives, where they vacationed, when they

had a small tragedy, when they got their haircuts and lots of intricate

patterns and habits one learns from being neighbors for years. She always

knew what their family was ‘up to’ and sometimes got to tag along, since

she was the youngest and last one left of her siblings in her family at

home.

Sharing a lot of good times, laughs, playing games and hanging out,

Tammy knew Mike, she says, (at least in elementary school) “like the

back of my hand.”

Tammy and Mike’s sister, Mary, were good friends from kindergarten

on. Mike was only two years older, so he was included in their inside

playtime. He was sometimes enlisted to play the “Daddy” in their

playing house and even, when it was a cold and boring winter day,

would allow himself to be the groom “Ken” doll for Tammy’s “Barbie.”

He also was chosen to be the “tester” of new recipes, concoctions

and helper in preparing things in the kitchen. There were times,

(rare indeed), that he would help set up a tent in the dining room, lie

down on blankets and chat with the girls. In junior high school, he

allowed himself to practice dancing with the girls.

I interrupted the flow of Tammy’s story,

“Wait! Did you say he played the groom and you the bride with your

dolls? Is that why you two have never married?”

Tammy laughed, “You are going to need to listen to the WHOLE story,

Robin! There’s more to this and why we never tied the knot!”

She recommenced telling her love story to me, saying that they were

living in a housing development, where there were side by side houses,

some looking like cookie cutter editions of the others. On the other side

of Mike and Mary’s house, new neighbors moved in during their middle

school years and they were from hence forth, called the “rowdy boys.”

Mike’s personality changed, partly from his older age and mainly due

to these boys’ influence. He was suddenly choosing to use squirt guns

or even buckets of water, to soak the girls while they were playing in the

yard. The girls were “telling on Mike” more and more.

One day, while they were in seventh grade, the girls had their one piece

bathing suits on, slathered Coppertone suntan lotion and were lying on

Mary’s patio in the bright afternoon sun. All of a sudden,the girls heard

some catcalling and rude comments from the boys on the other side of

the privacy fence. Then, there were tomatoes being pummeled over

the fence, landing on the patio and one even splatting on Tammy’s chest!

This was not funny! The “pranks” were getting carried away and the joke

was not a game anymore!

Poor Mike got “told on” and got a paddling by his father that evening.

Tammy said she never heard nor knew if the rowdy boys next door to

them faced any consequences. That fall after summer ended, Mike

was told by his father to join either junior high football or consider

running. He needed to get his energy out on something more productive

than the neighbor boys, who Mike and Mary’s father called the “trouble

makers!”

Every summer for a few years, the “tomato war” was mentioned as a

poor choice for the boys, the patio even had some reddish stains that

darkened like blood stains on the concrete. It was a reminder of the

change, also, in Mike. He was from that fall on, a “jock.” His haircut

was a sign of being in sports and during the seventies, a rare sight

to be seen. He was starting to get a stubble on his chin and chest hairs,

Tammy noted.

In junior high through high school years, the neighbor girls joined

chorus, choir and later, Glee Club. They were also members of Key Club,

a Kiwanis sponsored leadership club. Mike was president when they

joined and Tammy says, “a little bit of his ‘coolness’ rubbed off on us,

too. He also was very protective of me, as well as his sister, Mary.”

The front yard metal fence that separated their yards, now tended to

be where they would lean and talk. Mike would be getting home from

sports and hopping out of his old “beater” car, would see Tammy and

shout a big “Hi!” to her. If she had been to a party or on a date, they

would chat and review their lives for a short while. She looked up to

Mike now, listened to his opinions on who was a “good guy” and

who was a “stoner,” “loser” or “not worth wasting your time on”

guy.

They also, by the time Mike was in senior year, spent time talking

about their futures, dreams, college and plans. Tammy said she never

flirted nor did Mike hint at any interest in her, other than as a friend.

Neither hinted at each other being “good dating material.”

The year Mike went off in the fall to OSU to live in a dormitory, Morrell

Tower, Tammy said they were sophomores. Mary’s family never asked

Tammy to go to see the dorm or campus. Mike was not coming home

until Thanksgiving, she felt a twinge of regret but nothing really

noticeable. Two years later, when the girls graduated, Mary had chosen

Marion Technical College to study beginning nursing courses and Tammy

entered the same place to begin studying stenography, communication

and business coursework.

One hot summer evening, Mike was coming in from a day at football

camp down in Columbus, when he saw his sister and Tammy over in

her front yard. He stopped to say, “hi!’ and noticed the girls were all fixed

up and they told him they were heading over to a local Marion bar, called

the “O.K” but it was called, “O.K. Corral.” This was in the days where

you could drink something called, “3.2 beer” and you needed to be

18 or older.

Later in life, Mike told Tammy,

“Your hair looked like burnished copper, long and brushed, halfway

down your back. I noticed it being silky and even though I would never

had told you this then, I wanted to bury my hands in that hair!”

(Hot, huh?!)

He also told Tammy years later,

“When I looked at the two of you, I always used to see ‘two sisters’ but

on that evening, I saw my sister with an attractive stranger. My heart

gave a flutter, but I did not focus too long on it. Tired, went on in,

grabbed a beer and joined my Dad on the couch watching the Indians.”

Tammy remembers, though, a different look passing over his face, she

swears she noticed! She turned to his sister, Mary, and made a smart

remark, they both rolled their eyes and giggled.

She remembers his noticing the secret words whispered about him,

actually thought that they were saying he was a sweaty mess or some

other rude comment and stomped off. Tammy remembers he slammed

the front door behind him. He doesn’t remember slamming the door,

she says.

“At this point in my life”, Tammy says, she was thinking he was a foreign

person to her, enigmatic and godlike. He was an OSU football player

and she was (in her mind) ‘only a business tech student.’

When we went off that night, for some reason I did feel more confident

and I led a much better social life that summer. Mike noticed but said

not a word!

I started to date a member of a local band, he was dark, long haired and

very sexy looking. We spent a lot of time making out, sometimes in the

front of my house. We were lucky, I felt that there were no front lights

on the garage. We had so much more in common, music since I liked

seeing, and his band. I became a “groupie” and followed him to other

towns, with Mary and her boyfriend, at the time, too.

Fast forward two years later, the guy ended up going with his band

to California along with a blonde chick he noticed in his group of fans.

Mike was home from college senior year for Christmas. He had spent

the past two summers staying around Columbus, living with groups

of male students in big, ancient houses. Mary and I never went down,

not even once, to hang out with Mike and his pals. They were happily

dating other men in their classes.

Tammy recounts, “I remember it being their turn to invite us over for

a pre-holiday meal and it was just our parents and the three of us

present. Sometimes, in the past, it was more of an Open House and

we would bring dates to each other’s houses. People in the neighborhood

would be invited. We sang Christmas carols around their upright piano,

we played games of Charades. We had an odd number of people so

it ended up the team of us “kids” versus the parents. It was joyous and

I felt so at peace, I felt like we were all family. It settled down into my

heart and I felt a little differently towards Mike over this evening.

Mike had changed, he had longer hair, he was wearing older, more

raggedy blue jeans and a cream colored sweater. I thought he looked

very handsome. He no longer looked just like a “jock” or the brother

of my best friend. I thought, “if I ran into him somewhere else I would

want to dance with him or talk to him.” She went on…

“He didn’t look like anyone I had ever dated. He looked nice, REALLY nice!

I felt ‘butterflies in my stomach’ and I could not look directly into his eyes.

I was afraid he would be able to ‘read my mind!'”

Tammy told me she felt “Oh no! I am attracted to him!”

“I saw Mike head off to his room, as we were leaving and I asked if Mary

could come spend the night.”

My parents looked at us funny, we were in technical college and it had

been years since we had had a sleepover, but said, “Fine.”

Tammy confessed she had feelings for her friend’s brother and Mary

was very excited! She confessed to Tammy that she had always hoped

they would become sisters.

Although Tammy had older siblings, she also had the same feeling

about Mary, that they were ‘lifelong friends and sisters for life.’

It took almost six more years from then, Mike moved into his own

Columbus apartment, got engaged and his heart broken.

Tammy went from one man to another, always hoping that Mike

would notice that he had feelings for her, it was very similar to that

familiar 1991 song,

“Saving the Best for Last.” (Sung by Vanessa Williams. Please listen to

those lyrics if you haven’t heard it for awhile! So appropriate to this

almost frustratingly long back and forth interplay between Mike and

Tammy!)

I also like the song, “Patience,” by Guns N Roses, that seems like it

would  apply also to this relationship.

This couple has never married but they had cosigned for a lovely

house in the country (in a place called “Big Island” in Ohio.) They

have lived under the same roof for over 24 years and next year,

they just may celebrate that 1/4 of a century with a big party.

I could not believe that Mike’s bad engagement caused him to say

he would NEVER get married!

I have my fingers crossed that at the 25th anniversary of their life

they began together may be finalized in marriage. My happily

ever after wish has been told to her on more than one occasion.

These good, steady long enduring friends, have grown up, shared

a life where their beautiful house is where their families celebrate

the holidays. They have never had children. Tammy muses,

“Maybe that might have brought Mike to his knee to ask for my

hand in marriage.”

I like to point out that old expression,

“NEVER SAY NEVER!”