My coworker, Josephina, who goes by “Joe” among her friends
outside of work and “Fee” here at the warehouse, was sharing her
hopes for her wife and children to have an abundant Christmas.
Since the past two weeks, our hours have been cut, I have been
worried about those who have waited to purchase Santa’s gifts,
but cannot offer to help out anyone, unfortunately.
Fee was telling me about a publication on Monday, saying I
“should check it out.” It is called, “Outlook” magazine, which is
on the free newstand outside our library interior doors. This
would be like the ‘foyer’ of the building, where there are a few
public notices for clubs, organizations, and other public service
I took home “Outlook” and was amazed at the multitude of very
interesting articles and information for the holidays presented
within a ‘magazine’ for Gays, Bisexuals and Lesbians. I was so
enthralled with the subject of music, since the ‘stereotype’ of
this magnificent group of human beings, is they love their
musicals and ‘show tunes.’ The articles about famous local
people and famous national people who have recently ‘come out’
had my attention, too. The recipes for cocktails and yummy
appetizers had me interested and copying a few down. It is a very
informative and well-rounded publication. On the cover is a lovely
photograph of Bette Midler. Her article is titled,
Do you remember when Bette Midler wore corsets and was on the
wild side, as “The Divine Miss M?” She made a lot of friends in the
gay and lesbian community, singing in the Continental Bath House.
I still consider her attractive, liked her G-rated family movie with the
theme of being an unprepared grandmother, “Parental Guidance.”
Her songs, “God Is Watching Us” and “The Wind Beneath My Wings,”
are on my all time favorite Top 50 songs.
Why did Fee send me to pick this up? The better question is,
“What took me so long?”
I have had a long history of having many gay friends, particularly
the guy who took me to my high school prom, along with both of
my brothers’ good and oldest friends. My youngest brother met
his friend in running clubs. My ‘older,’ one who is only 18 months
younger than I, had not noticed his high school friend who was a
wrestler and also, accompanied a group of us to my brother’s
high school prom, until college when he ‘came out’ to him.
Speaking of ‘coming out’ there is a well researched and presented
article on this subject in “Outlook.” It is addressing the idea of
trying this over the holidays. I would say letting relatives who are
younger know about your personal choices, but wait to inform
ones who are older. This is a ‘tricky minefield,’ and why make
the holidays uncomfortable?
My friend, Fee, told me a few interesting facts about her life,
along with her girlfriend’s, too. Most people think that she and
her girlfriend are just living together to save money, to share
co-parenting with another woman and also, their long lasting
friendship. Fee also shared her growing up years with me, over a
sparsely populated break time. We had chosen to go to break later
than most of the order fillers. She is a grown version of Campbell’s
Soup kids. I would describe her as a past redhead, more blonde now.
She told me about how average looking she had been, how she did
not have much confidence and how being in a steady relationship
with her first boyfriend led to her marrying him. She says she had
lack of self esteem. Fee was friends with Jessie, her current partner,
through many years as Jessie was married to a friend of her husband’s.
I was glad to hear that there was no history of abuse on the part of
either of their husbands against them. This traumatic experience
can sometimes draw people away from being heterosexual.
My coworker Karen and her Suzie experienced this, individually
although not necessarily conclusive proof of most gays or lesbians.
In the case of the men I have known in my life, they ‘knew’ it, all
along but fought their desires to be with men, wanting so badly to fit
into the ‘normal’ society.
Fee told me their children are so happy they are a family. Some of
the kids remember the turmoil while they had fathers in their house.
Jessie was the ‘brave one,’ Fee told me. She ‘came out’ and told her
she loved Fee. Fee still has a Granny and an “Auntie” who don’t
know that the two roommates are lovers. Fee also did give our work
insurance a ‘thumb’s up,’ since they do cover same sex partners for
medical, dental and vision insurance. Fee would like to get married
to Jessie. She says their wedding announcements would say a silly
and joyful declaration (like):
“Jessie is my girl,
Joe is my guy.
Jessica and Josephina
are one happy couple,
One happy family.”
Jessie embarrassed me a bit, but mainly since we work together, I
would not want to picture any of my coworkers’ romantic lives…
But Fee told me that the two of them take turns leading the family,
doing certain chores like cooking and cleaning, depending on their
busy schedules, She went a ‘step farther’ to share with me,
“Jessie likes me to be the ‘guy’ and I don’t mind wearing the pants
in the house, but sometimes I want to be the ‘girl’ who gets their
bath drawn, back and body parts rubbed and all those delicious
Since I was sad to hear that a male college student got beat up
recently in the news, for holding hands and kissing in public,
I wished to ask her a personal question about prejudice. She told
me a shocking thought, that she “felt luckier to be a woman who
chooses to be gay, since men have it harder, it is not as easy for
society to accept men who are gay.” She continued to surprise me,
“It is easier to be a ‘gay woman’ than to be of a different race. You
know you can ‘hide’ your sexuality, if you choose, but I feel bad since
the world is still a harsh place to be if you are of color.”
Fee told me to go ahead and put the musical lists that I found in my
post, as long as I focused on a song that she and Jessie love and feel
says it all:
” Waiting on the World to Change,”
How could I not include the fine and exquisite list of holiday songs,
recommended by the “Outlook” media magazine?
This is an excellent and eclectic list. Hope you will enjoy this and
it is much more encompassing than my short list of favorites on
1. “Blue Christmas,” by Elvis.
2. India.Arie with Trombone Shorty, playing “I’ve Got My Love
to Keep Me Warm.”
3. Kenny G. and Dave Koz, “Let It Snow, Let It Snow, Let It Snow.”
4. Idina Menzel (of “Frozen” children’s animated film fame and also,
original cast of “Rent” on Broadway) singing the songs
“Do You Hear What I Hear?”
“All I Want for Christmas, is You.”
and ** Original song written by I. Menzel, with Walter Afanseif
and Charlie Midnight, “December Prayer.” (The critics say this is
5. Harry Connick, Jr. singing an original song, “When My Heart
6. Barbara Streisand, (recommended her whole album),
“A Christmas Album.”
7. Human Nature, “The Christmas Album,” with the songs that
they highlighted as, “Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas”
and an original song, “Mary’s Boy Child.” (I need to listen to
these original songs recommended very soon!)
8. Dave Koz, “The 25th of December” album. One song that
caught my interest was “All You Need is Love,” from the Beatles,
Sung with Stevie Wonder, Gloria Estefan, Richard Marx, Heather
Headley and Johnny Mathis.
9. Any Christmas songs sung by Johnny Mathis, they absolutely
loved and recommended. The nicknamed J. M.: “Mr. Christmas!”
The favorite on the list of mine is, “It’s the Most Wonderful Time
of the Year.”
10. The Singing Bee brought us “Pentatonix,” which is an all
a capella group of singers. The song that is their original holiday
song is, “That’s Christmas to Me.”
11. Take 6 (band) plays “He is Christmas.” An original song to be
listened and appreciated.
The fun and lively Christmas Concert for my granddaughter’s (Lara)
Fifth Grade Chorus had these songs on their program:
1. “Yankee Doodle Boy/ Kid From the U.S.A” written by John Jacobson
and Alan Billingsley.
2. “Colors of Winter,” written by Amy F. Bernon.
3. “All I Want for Christmas Is My Two Front Teeth,” by Don Gardner and
arrangement by Sally K. Albrecht.
4. “March Pat-a-Pan,” accompanied on the flute by Ana Moder and on the
hand drum by Stacy Lemke, Chorus director. The song was arranged by
I enjoyed the four songs sung by the Sixth Grade Chorus:
1. “Jubilate Deo,” an old traditional “round” song, no author or lyricist
2. “Hava Nashira,” Israelis Folk Song, arranged by John Leavitt and
accompanied by Laura Lenhart on the clarinet.
3. “Gloria Tibi Domine” written by Greg Gilpin.
4. “Peace on Earth/ It Came Upon a Midnight Clear.”
Are there any other songs you would like to include?
I am always happy to feature music and especially
recommend your looking
into the original songs
on this list.
Music connects our senses,
gets us up and moving,
it builds emotions
I am ‘off’ to see the “Fantasy of Lights, ” after I pick up my oldest
daughter, Carrie with her two boys, Skyler and Micah.
We plan to go see Santa Claus and eat a dessert out.
(Wouldn’t hot chocolate and cookies, pie or cake be scrumptious?)