During my favorite summer of 2012, I enjoyed meeting men in parks,
coffee and ice cream shops. All part of my online dating experiences
that I would not trade a moment of! But my most favorite form of
dating is dinner and a movie! It is not recommended as a first or
second date, since the second half of the date you are in the dark
with a person, of the opposite sex, who is nearly a stranger!
This is not always the best way to build rapport in the beginning of
a relationship. There are sometimes where you may feel awkward,
for example, if the movie is rather risque and embarassing. Or if it
is extremely juvenile and raunchy in its humor, but you cannot help
bursting out laughing, possibly louder than your date, even spraying
Diet Coke out of your nose or mouth due to the sudden impact of
a well placed zany joke!
Although, I did try this before; movies on a first and second date,
recently, with my summer six weeks of dating the younger man. Our
most fun times were those meals and movies we shared. The least
fun times, awkward moments were the way the Indians’ game went
“down.” And the other more intimate disaster, that ended that dating
When the whole scenario was suggested again, by the “new Mark,” I
could not resist saying, “Yes! Let’s do this!” (Ever ignoring past history
Mark and I had a pleasant time on our first “coffee date” that turned
into a Greek Sunday dinner at Opa’s Restaurant. Then, a few nights
later, I heard from him again. He called to say that he was going to
be busy over this past weekend (the first weekend in October) on
both Friday and Saturday. He asked, would I mind having another
Sunday dinner and this time, follow up with a movie?
We still are in the very new form of dating, not a lot of information
has been covered. I am a “rambler” and he is reticent. I have been
trying the questioning approach but then after awhile, I worry that
he may feel I am prying.
So, then, my mouth chews food, drinks dainty sips of my beverage
and listens as the restaurant buzzes around us with many strands
We chose “1808,” a nicer local restaurant, located across the street
from the Strand movie theatre. Very convenient to eat and leave his
car parked in same place, to walk to see the movie after dinner.
I ordered my “usual” pecan crusted chicken salad, this sometimes
varies, as almond crusted chicken salad. I am now doubting which
one I had…
Hmm. Must depend on the chef’s choice of nuts? Or if the kitchen
has only one kind, that is the way it is listed on the daily menu?
Anyway, this large, but reasonably priced salad, comes with a
delicious maple vinaigrette. Usually, people order “bread service”
but I did not even suggest it. Mark ordered the fish of the day. For
the life of me, not sure what it was… it was the special of the day, too.
I think my brain gets frozen or overloaded on dates. My nerves are a
little shot and frayed… Don’t give me a “test” because I would fail!
We chatted about his busy weekend. I shared that I had seen a
movie with my daughter, had borrowed seven from the library and
had seen most of them. The movies I chose were a “mixed bag,”
including comedies and serious ones, too.
The funny movie that I enjoyed most was, “Dark Shadows.” I have a
fondness for Johnny Depp, also the actor in the t.v. show, “Elementary”
is in this movie as the husband to Michelle Pfeiffer.
One of the more serious movies I shared with my daughter, that was
heartwarming, was “People Like Us.” It was about a man who was not
close to his recently deceased father who had been a famous musician.
The mother, wife of the famous musician is played by Michelle Pfeiffer,
the young man is played by Chris Pine and there is a woman, played by
Elizabeth Banks, whose son is left money by the musician. Chris Pine’s
character is requested by his father in his will to pursue and find the
woman with her son. It is a tale of humanity and redemption. We
enjoyed it, along with a beautiful song, called, “Dotted Line” sung by
Liz Phair, as the movie ends, credits roll.
I imparted these thoughts to Mark, since I like to analyse movies.
He was a good listener. I then asked what are some of his favorite
I was hoping to let him talk for awhile, since our food had arrived
and I am a slow salad eater. I have been known to eat for an hour,
when consuming a large salad! This broiled chicken with nuts was
delicious and I really wanted to savor it.
We had under an hour to get to the movie, at this point in time.
We had chosen the only adult movie that seemed like good actors
were in, along with a serious theme. I guess we could not go to
“Cloudy with a Chance of Meatballs 2,” huh?
Mark had suggested going to the movie called, “Prisoners.” The
actors in it were Maria Bello, Hugh Jackman, Jake Gyllenhaal,
Viola Davis and Terence Howard.
(Terence Howard is a favorite of mine, since the movie, “Crash.”
It was nice to see Viola Davis, since she was in “The Help.”)
Mark shared that he likes the Star Trek movies, with Chris Pine in
William Shatner’s role as Captain Kirk. He likes some of the same
British movies, such as “The Constant Gardener” and also, knew
my youngest daughter’s and my favorite Christmas movie, “Love
Actually.” He is not a fan of “Bridget Jones’ Diary” nor “Notting
Hill” and surprisingly, for a serious man, did not ever see “Pride
and Prejudice.” I mentioned that Donald Sutherland is excellent
as the father and that its a family story that includes romance,
history and interesting plot twists, too.
I asked what other movies in the science fiction genre did he enjoy?
Mark informed me that the reason he liked the newer “Star Trek”
movies it was because it was a remake of the t.v. series more than
the fact it was sci-fy. I asked did he like the Sherlock Holmes two
movies with Robert Downey, Jr. and Jude Law in them? The plot has
some WWI references and Germany in the second of the movies. He
had not seen them. I was again thinking seriously and trying to pull
some comments out of him. I asked his had he seen “War Horse” or
the “Die Hard” newest movie. Neither have been seen by him. I was
being met by silence. But he had said he liked movies, over the cell
phone. I came up with another way to find out his likes in movies.
I asked him what was the last movie he had seen?
He could not remember. I dropped the subject.
We talked about his children that are in their twenties and that
was nice to hear that they had a family dinner, they also do like
to play games. They did not play games this weekend, but do
like cards and board games. One is already in his career and his
daughter attends a state college in Ohio. His ex-wife lives in an
older neighborhood here in Delaware and he has bought a smaller
house in a more newer neighborhood. I told him that my last home
had been in Lexington Glen, brief synopsis of where ex was and
how we had decided to sell the house, etc.
The “Prisoners” movie is sad, regrettably. I was not prepared for the
emotions of it, there is a very disgusting, horrific part where one of
the protagonists that you really like, is not nice at all. I was dismayed.
During the whole movie, I would have liked an arm around me. It was
intense and disturbing. I would not recommend watching it with
someone you don’t know nor really paying money to see it. There are
so many other movies out there, better choices. I, unfortunately, had
not read even one review!
We had both agreed ahead about the time and the movie, itself. No
one could be “blamed” or upset at the choice. We left the theatre in
silence, I was not even wanting to discuss the ending. He did ask me
which direction I thought the director could have gone to let us know
how to feel in the end.
I don’t want to sound discouraged. I do think we enjoyed our meal and
the movie has an “open-ending.” This is what I call a movie that makes
you decide how it will end. You could go either way, a happy ending,
but it seems unlikely. The tone seemed to reflect an unhappy ending.
That would just put the ‘nail in the coffin.’
Mark walked me home and we gave each other a hug. He will call soon,
later in the week, he said.
I did not write anything for a couple days, it is Tuesday after all. I was
not sure if it was the movie, the prying conversation out of a very nice
but quiet man, or what was a little “off.”
We did not cover religion, politics nor sex. We stayed on safe ground
and relatively pleasant but dry conversation. I am smiling with my
best foot forward still in place.
Here was my best summary of the second date with the chemist
from PPG named Mark.
Dinner and a movie, plus a hug.