I am friends with a few younger couples who are coworkers that are
my children’s ages. I relate to their struggles with young children,
sympathize when the little ones are sick and give them enrouragement.
I tell them, “This too will pass.” I love the way they seem to deeply care
about their partners and they celebrate in simple ways their love.
The first couple I have mentioned the male part of the couple, Darryl.
He and I have jokes about running away and robbing a bank to get cash
to support his and my families. Then, I tell him that I can get away with it
more than he (he is black and we laugh because he would be my “fall guy”
in case of arrest!) This may seem inappropriate, along with his trying to
cheer me up when I am down, while giving me his “evil eye!” I like the way
I can tell him, “I was out with my younger daughter at Brooklyn Heights
on Wed. “hump night” and he will ask, “Well, Robin, did you find a man to
‘hump’ you?” The other way we started a little running joke, is to ask each
other, totally in jest, of course:
“Did you get drunk last night?” or “I have a hangover and I need out of
here!” (Neither of us drink much, and his wife, Samantha, knows about our
jokes. She asked, “Why does she get to rob banks with you, Darryl? She
should stay home and watch our little hoodlums!”)
Awhile back, I had told you that he and his sons were not so sure about
the idea of a baby girl entering their family. His wife, Samantha, was very
excited and Darryl had complained, “Everything pink is being bought from
her clothes to her newborn baby diapers!” I had told him, “That special
little baby will have you wrapped around your baby pinky in no time!”
Darryl and Samanth had their new addition to their family on Sunday, the
same day I was celebrating at a baby christening party!
Their precious baby girl, weighed a healthy 8 lbs. 6 oz., measuring 22″ long,
and they named her “Dondria.” I am going to make a zoo themed baby name
picture for her, I have been ‘warned’ that the boys will then be asking, “Why
can’t that lady make ME a picture, too?”
I have Dondria’s adorable newborn photos on my cell phone. Most coworkers
already have seen that precious, all pink-wrapped up like a present, new
baby girl! Her brothers, who the parents call rowdy all the time, who liked
this summer runnning around “buck naked” in rainstorms, are very gentle
with her. The littlest one of the brothers, (all start with D letter names) held
the baby and put his finger out for the baby to wrap her whole hand around
it. They keep saying he screams the word, “Bee-bee!” and startles the baby!
It is a sign of love and excitement in this one’s joyful shriek!
The other couple is Garret and Courtney. This couple’s love story is sweet, with
a little history wrapped in thier longer love story. They were best friends in
kindergarten. They were both considered a little “pair of dominoes,” is what
Courney called them. They liked the Stevie Wonder and Paul Mc Cartney duet
song, “Ebony and Ivory,” with Paul Mc Cartney. The couple say that song
represents how the two races need to get along better. This is their wish
for their personal lives to not get so many stares at their contrasting colors.
Courtney says, “People still stare, even though it is so much more common
in our culture.” Of course, the lyrics include the phrase “Why can’t we live in
harmony?” …like the black and white keys on the piano do.
Courtney’s grandfather still calls their son, “a mixed race rugrat” to her sister,
who tells him, “Shame on you, Grandpa!”
Courtney claims they had a “falling out” in middle school, when Garret
flirted with her best friend.
“Garret started to consider me ‘boring’ and ‘just a friend’ so he broke my
Courtney later, she says, not on purpose but truly decided to move on and
had a ‘crush’ in high school that she claims “devastated Garret.” I told him,
“Well now, who feels like the ‘old shoe?'”
Anyway, this sweet couple got married only three years ago and have a cute
as can be, little boy named, Te’Sean. I just did a baby name picture for
him, since I have become closer to Courtney once she moved to our bin
order fillers department. She now eats lunch with us older people, Anna’s
seat now filled with her. She asked me to do all sports related details and
use red and bright blue in the picture.
Te’Sean loves Michael Jordan in “Space Jam” movie. Garret and Courtney
bought it more for themselves, since it was filmed while they were younger.
That is the movie where Elmer Fudd is in the cast and Michael Jordan does
a fine job interacting with the animation. The movie was made in 1996 and
this would mean Garret and Courtney were only 16 when they “kissed and
made up” from both their crushes on other people and went out on one of
their first “real dates!”
Courtney is more of a worrier than Darryl and Samantha, along with her
husband, Garret. She is not so sure that love can last through all the years.
This is a good question. I feel very ill equipped to give advice or even tell her
too much of my history of marriages. I do tell her that it is so great that she
and Garret are very actively involved parents. Their one and only child, gets
to go to play areas, the zoo, different parks and the toddler reading programs
at the library, too. I tell her that their life together has made their bond
very strong. Tammy (whose Fence Post buddies story included friends
throughout their growing up years), is very open and a caring “mentor”
for Courtney. She tells her that they will get “closer and closer through
I include these young struggling couples in my prayers, along with my son
and his wife, my oldest daughter and her partner who backed out of their
January wedding, but still lives with the two boys and her. I include so many
people in my thoughts. I have faith in our God to bless them and keep them
The sanctity of marriage and faith in God seems to be mirrored in these
couples who love each other. I hope that the children will help to keep
the parents focused on their family. It is a very challenging world we live in,
let alone, having to face some people who still show a lack of understanding
in their differences. Acceptance is still the key to support peoples’ right to
love one another. We all know marriage and raising a family isn’t an easy path
they have chosen, no matter who they are!