In their third album, “X & Y,” songs and lyrics by Coldplay, there
is a lovely song called, “Fix You.” The British rock group was
founded in 1996. Two college friends, Chris Martin and Jonny Buckland,
started together having met at University College, London, England.
Their group, also, includes Guy Berryman and Will Champion.
The breakdown of the musical group, Coldplay’s talents goes like this:
Guy Berryman is on acoustical guitar, Jonny Buckland plays percussion
instruments, Chris Martin is talented on the piano and Will Champion
plays the piano, also. They have contributed to the writing of many
of the group’s songs together.
The song, “Fix You,” has a slow, sweet pace with some sadness in the
lyrics. It is about someone who is broken, who doesn’t ‘know their worth.’
The singer is expressing the desire to fix that person. I find it a song
that ‘haunts’ me.
I almost included this song in my “Homeward Reflections” post. I felt
that my poem, partly inspired by the Simon and Garfunkel song, “Homeward
Bound,” could have been a ‘bookend’ to “Fix You.” (The album, “X & Y,”
came out in June, 2005 in the UK and Europe.)
Only the lyrics held me back. . .
I was a little bit disturbed by the implied arrogance of the title.
Also, the idea that someone felt capable of ‘fixing’ anyone other than
Probably, I was a little brought ‘down’ by my own personal inner feelings
of having possibly chosen, in past relationships, ‘broken people.’ Some
sense of inadequacy naturally derived from several failed marriages.
Was I saddened because this made me examine these feelings again?
Am I one who likes to play God and “fix” others?
I wanted that post to be positive and upbeat, so I left the Coldplay
song, “Fix You,” out of the post.
While talking to others, since that ‘home’ post, I found they thought
that I may be misinterpreting the words of the song.
I am also intrigued with analyzing the different ways that we use the
words, “fix,” “fixing/fixin’s,” and “fixed.” I have upon reflection,
decided I don’t like the lyrics, but still absolutely adore the song
by Coldplay’s artists, Chris Martin, Jonny Buckland (and others) in the
My favorite parts are the beginning stanzas and the repeated (3 x)
Here are those ‘pieces’ and help me to understand what “fix you,” means
in this song:
“When you try your best,
but you don’t succeed.
When you get what you want,
but not what you need.
When you feel so tired,
but you cannot sleep.
Stuck in reverse…”
(“You’ll never know what you’re worth” stanza)…
“Lights will guide you home
And ignite your bones
And I will try to fix you.”
The definition of “fix” includes the ideas of
and many more definitions.
In my favorite part of looking at a word, I like to engage in ‘word play.’
It helps me to think in terms of lists of uses of “fix,” “fixing,” “fixin’s”
This may be challenging to understand if you are used to another language!
This also may confuse you, but variations of the word, “fix,” can be shown
in both negative and positive connotations.
POSITIVE uses of the words that have a root word of “fix:”
1. “fixer-upper” house- one that someone would purchase, make it better by
putting their hard efforts into. It is usually a first home, but sometimes
fixed up to become a rental or ‘turn around’ home. (Real Estate.)
2. “Fix-o-dent” can be quite helpful to keep elderly (and toothless) persons’
dentures in place. (Personal Hygiene.)
3. “fixin’s”- In the south, sometimes in the ‘hills’ people consider this
the delicious side dishes that go with the main meal. Cracker Barrel had
a section with this label for quite some time.
I especially like the expression, “all the fixin’s.” (Food Preparation.)
4. “fix up”- When you are getting fixed up to go out, your appearance
usually is improved!
Example: “My, you certainly look ‘fixed up’ for the party!”
Other variations can include, fixing one’s hair, makeup, and adjusting
Example: “She ‘fixed’ the length of her dress to cover her knees.”
5. “fix”- To prepare a dish or dinner.
Example: “My friend ‘fixes’ a great lasagna!”
6. “fix”- To set up a date, match-make a friend.
Example: “I ‘fixed’ my brother up with my high school friend.”
7. “fix”- To mend or repair, in the way of making whole.
a. “I will do whatever it takes to ‘fix this’ and make you feel
b. “He told her that he would ‘fix’ their relationship by building
8. “fix” or “fixed”- To have won the lottery or inherit money. Be ‘set.’
Example: “That family if ‘fixed’ for life!”
9. “fix” or “fixed”- To be focused on a goal. (Personal Development.)
Example: “He was ‘fixed’ on the Prize.”
10. “fix” or “fixed”- Body parts replaced or repaired. (Personal
a. “She had her eyes ‘fixed’ by laser surgery.”
b. “The famous actor had his facial structure ‘fixed’ after
the accident, through plastic surgery.”
11. “fixed”- A short term used when an animal is neutered,
spayed or castrated.
Example: “I had my dog ‘fixed.’
12. “fixin'”- When one is planning to be married or do an action,
they may express this as, “I’m fixin’ to get hitched!” (Slang.)
My personal bias, interpreting this definition, is that we should
have animals fixed, if we are to help with preventing over-
population of animals. Breeders are allowed to interpret this
usage as negative, since they may wish to produce champions or
make money selling ‘pure breds.’
NEGATIVE uses of the words derived from the root word, “Fix:”
1. “fix”- A person may use this word when ‘in a jam,'(or bind) or
otherwise need someone to bail himself/herself out of a bad situation.
Example: “I’m in a fix.” (Personal Behavior.)
2. “fix”- To repair something broken, attach two parts together with glue,
other things that “need to be fixed.” (The positive result of fixing,
done well, is its counterpart, the whole item.)
3. “fix”- To comply with a teacher or employer’s request to “Fix this.”
This means a mistake or problems lie in the presentation. (The positive
result of fixing this, may mean a better grade or a raise!)
4. “fix”- Need to have a drug, caffeine, sugar, tobacco or other mood
Example: “I need my caffeine ‘fix’ or I won’t be very productive.”
(Slang term, “I need a fix,” can be very negative…)
5. “fix”- This takes on a sinister meaning, in politics, hidden agendas
and mobster movies.
Example: “You better ‘fix’ this!”
6. “fix”- In certain situations, meaning to change or ‘throw’
a. “The fight was ‘fixed.’
b. “School test scores have been found to be ‘fixed’ and may have to be
c. “The player ‘threw’ the game by fixing the bets based on a losing
7. “fix”- In slang or colloquial usage, can mean revenge or vengeful
thoughts or behaviors.
Example: “That’ll ‘fix’ her!” (Personal Behavior.)
8. “fix”- To adjust an item of clothing that needs to be.
a. “Fix your fly!”
b. “Her bra straps would not stay up, so she had to continually
Both examples are easily turned into positives, when the person
adjusts their clothing item! (Personal Appearance.)
As far as the song, “Fix You,” goes, I feel that no one should think
they are solely responsible for another person’s decisions. I found
this out, through Al-Anon and also, marriage counseling. Accepting
and adjusting to the choices your partner makes, will help you to
stay together. Only when you feel that you cannot do so, then if
the other person doesn’t want to change and adapt to your ways,
then you may need counseling or separation, to reflect on whether
or not it is worth changing for the other person.
Certain phrasings don’t go over well with me, since I feel that in
most relationships the couple needs to work together to make decisions.
I prefer Kahlil Gibran’s image of two cypress trees, neither in each
other’s shadow. Here is a passage from the 1923 book, “The Prophet.”
This is how to be part of a couple, in marriage:
“Let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you…”
(Several passages follow)…
“And stand together, yet not too near…”
“The oak and the cypress grow
Not in each other’s shadow.”
When you leave a comment, please let me know if you think the intention of
this song, is positive or negative. Is it just me that worries about an
unspoken sense of negative control of the other’s being?