I ended up wearing the first dress. It fit right in with the evening reception, along
with my youngest daughter’s insistence it was more ‘current’ than the other two!
I would love to share Nate and Holly’s love story with you, since it has been awhile
since I have shared a love story. If you have time, I have about 30 other ones in
my past writings! They cheer me up, as it is interesting to know how people met.
Nate and Holly knew each other since the fourth grade. They say they ‘went out’
or ‘were going together for about a minute!’ This was shared by the minister during
the ceremony. She said she was ‘charmed’ by how Nate told her that he ‘spent the
next eight years trying to win her back.’
About 6 years ago, they ran into each other in a local saloon, the Back Stretch, where
several of the Delaware High alums of 2004 were gathered. Nate really knew that this
might be one of his last chances to catch Holly. So while talking to her, he leaned over
and whispered, “That girl over there keeps hanging on me, could you pretend you are
my girlfriend and kiss me?” The minister chuckled, when she told the congregation
gathered, some like me, who did not know this fact. She even slyly added something
like what a great line and how wonderful that this worked.
When her sister was getting married, my daughter Felicia and Holly were bridesmaid
and Maid of Honor. Holly asked if she could bring Nate, even though he had only been
on a couple of dates with her. Megan said, “Sure, if he REALLY wants to get to know
us, this would be the perfect setting.” Megan and Breck got married in a late summer
outdoor wedding, they had been high school sweethearts. They have a little one year
old boy who rode down the aisle after the flower girl with a boy who must have been
a three year old cousin, pulling him in a wagon.
Nate had mentioned to Megan at the wedding, something like, “What’s not to love
about your family? They like dancing and drinking and so do I. He fit right in, Megan
told us in her Matron of Honor speech.
Here are two of the beautiful speeches, almost poetic in their simple loving meaning.
The first was read by a good friend of Felicia, who was in her Confirmation class and
brought his very cordial wife.
His hello was the end of her endings,
Her laugh was their first step down the aisle,
His hand would be hers to hold forever,
His forever was as simple as her smile.
He said she was what he was missing,
She said instantly she knew,
She was a question to be answered,
And his answer was, “I do.”
(no author given)
This is the lovely passage at the end of the British cast movie. Felicia and I have
watched this for the past 13 years since 9/11/01. The meaning of love everywhere
entranced us, the Christmas Spirit is present throughout, and it has a little PG-13
action, so it isn’t one you would show anyone under that age. Colin Firth, Hugh
Grant, Liam Neeson and others are outstanding. As well as a sweet actress who is
played by Martine McCutcheon. She adds to the romantic tone of the movie, in
this international story, as the aide to the Prime Minister. Emma Thompson and
Alan Rickman have a different kind of love story in this movie, married with one
of them participating in a ‘dangerous’ flirtation. Their story has a really funny
element, where one of their children plays a ‘lobster’ in a feast. I love the song,
which creates a bittersweet tone in their stressful lives, sung by
Joni Mitchell, “Both Sides Now.” If you wish to listen to it, the 2000 version
shows an ‘older and wiser’ songstress singing about ‘not really knowing love
at all,’ with a grand orchestration. This newer version is more textured and
was chosen specifically for one of the scenes, where Emma’s character is
rather frustrated with her life. The Colin Firth story has a maid/housekeeper
who is not able to speak English, which creates comedic episodes, with clever
subtitles in it.
“Whenever I get gloomy with the state of the world, I think about the gates at
Heathrow Airport. General opinion is starting to make out that we live in a
world of hatred and greed, but I don’t see that. It seems to me that love is
everywhere. Often, it is not particularly dignified or newsworthy, but it’s
always there- – fathers and sons, mothers and daughters, husbands and wives,
boyfriends, girlfriends, old friends. When the planes hit the twin towers, as
far as I know, none of the phone calls from the people on board were messages
of hate or revenge- – they were all messages of love. If you look for it, I’ve got a
sneaky feeling you’ll find that love actually is all around.”
(Hugh Grant, playing the character of the Prime Minister, speaks these words
while you see people greeting, embracing and parting with hugs from all kinds
of international cultures, shown in their apparel.)
The reception was held in the second floor of the Clippers Stadium, so I do have
photos of Felicia and me, with the background behind us of the baseball diamond.
The place was cold, it is heated by radiant ceiling ‘pipe-like’ things. I got my popcorn
which the bag said, “It all started when he popped the question. Holly and Nate,
October 4, 2014.” There is a dug-out café, also Tansky’s Grille and other interesting
parts of this location. When the sun went down and the lights of Columbus lit
up, it was simply the perfect, idyllic location for an Autumn wedding. The couples
came up the stairs from the first floor, while the DJ and announcer called out
first the couples where they were bridesmaids and groomsmen, then the Matron
of Honor, (sister of the bride, Megan) and the Best Man (brother of the groom.)
We had ‘ordered’ when we ‘R.S.V.P.’d’ our meal which mine was a grilled chicken
breast with a balsamic dressing, a tomato butter, freshly cooked green beans
and pasta in a garlic sauce.
I met some people I didn’t know at other tables, but knew the family of Doug
and Lisa, along with their children who are grown and out of college. They
each had a date, Lisa’s younger sister is planning a wedding next year and
her fiancé was encouraging her to ‘take notes,’ along with showing a little
excitement for the next wedding in their family. I met and exchanged my
phone number with a woman in her fifties who likes country music, goes
to different activities and mentioned a reasonably priced concert coming
up in Columbus. I mentioned I love movies and going out locally, since I
tend to like to have one or two drinks and worry about sleepiness while
driving back from Columbus. Unless I could pre-arrange staying with my
youngest daughter in what is now called, “Olde Towne East.” We will see
if Pat calls me, since I was not as enthusiastic about a Thursday concert,
the one that is low cost.
I spent a lot of time with the bride’s grandmother, Ginny, who has been
a good friend for more years than the two children knew each other. She
and I met at a nursing home, where I was the activities director for over
four years. She was the home’s hairdresser, so we teamed up with her
bringing down people to the activities room, along with my assistant and
I, had coffee and donuts along with a weekly craft time. It made me feel
‘good’ for my own self, but not so much for the current residents, ones
who lived there after I was hired up at the preschool with the special
needs little ones. She told me that basically they didn’t collaborate or
work their schedules around her clients’ scheduled days (she works as
a part-time hairdresser, only twice a week.) Of course, it is a bittersweet
thought when she compliments me this way: “It never was the same
after you left! Lori, (my assistant) moved on to drive the disabilities van
and the city wide system bus.”
I got up and danced with the bridesmaids to a nice Chicago tune, then
pulled Ginny up to the dance floor for “Twist and Shout.” I ended up
leaving after ten o’clock, while the night was still ‘young’ and lively!
It had been a perfect day for a wedding, after all.
A little rain is supposed to bring you luck, along with the sun popping out,
when the couple came out of the church, bubbles floating around their heads.
The wedding party boarded a trolley car which whisked them somewhere
not divulged, to take photographs and begin their celebrating a marriage
I do believe will last.
It began at such an innocent age allowing time to grow, develop and
become true love.