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Dinner and a movie

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During my favorite summer of 2012, I enjoyed meeting men in parks,

coffee and ice cream shops. All part of my online dating experiences

that I would not trade a moment of! But my most favorite form of

dating is dinner and a movie! It is not recommended as a first or

second date, since the second half of the date you are in the dark

with a person, of the opposite sex, who is nearly a stranger!

This is not always the best way to build rapport in the beginning of

a relationship. There are sometimes where you may feel awkward,

for example, if the movie is rather risque and embarassing. Or if it

is extremely juvenile and raunchy in its humor, but you cannot help

bursting out laughing, possibly louder than your date, even spraying

Diet Coke out of your nose or mouth due to the sudden impact of

a well placed zany joke!

Although, I did try this before; movies on a first and second date,

recently, with my summer six weeks of dating the younger man. Our

most fun times were those meals and movies we shared. The least

fun times, awkward moments were the way the Indians’ game went

“down.” And the other more intimate disaster, that ended that dating

situtation altogether.

When the whole scenario was suggested again,  by the “new Mark,” I

could not resist saying, “Yes! Let’s do this!” (Ever ignoring past history

of mistakes!)

Mark and I had a pleasant time on our first “coffee date” that turned

into a Greek Sunday dinner at Opa’s Restaurant. Then, a few nights

later, I heard from him again. He called to say that he was going to

be busy over this past weekend (the first weekend in October) on

both Friday and Saturday. He asked, would I mind having another

Sunday dinner and this time, follow up with a movie?

We still are in the very new form of dating, not a lot of information

has been covered. I am a “rambler” and he is reticent. I have been

trying the questioning approach but then after awhile, I worry that

he may feel I am prying.

So, then, my mouth chews food, drinks dainty sips of my beverage

and listens as the restaurant buzzes around us with many strands

of conversation.

We chose “1808,” a nicer local restaurant, located across the street

from the Strand movie theatre. Very convenient to eat and leave his

car parked in same place, to walk to see the movie after dinner.

I ordered my “usual” pecan crusted chicken salad, this sometimes

varies, as almond crusted chicken salad. I am now doubting which

one I had…

Hmm. Must depend on the chef’s choice of nuts? Or if the kitchen

has only one kind, that is the way it is listed on the daily menu?

Anyway, this large, but reasonably priced salad, comes with a

delicious maple vinaigrette. Usually, people order “bread service”

but I did not even suggest it. Mark ordered the fish of the day. For

the life of me, not sure what it was… it was the special of the day, too.

I think my brain gets frozen or overloaded on dates. My nerves are a

little shot and frayed… Don’t give me a “test” because I would fail!

We chatted about his busy weekend. I shared that I had seen a

movie with my daughter, had borrowed seven from the library and

had seen most of them. The movies I chose were a “mixed bag,”

including comedies and serious ones, too.

The funny movie that I enjoyed most was, “Dark Shadows.” I have a

fondness for Johnny Depp, also the actor in the t.v. show, “Elementary”

is in this movie as the husband to Michelle Pfeiffer.

One of the more serious movies I shared with my daughter, that was

heartwarming, was “People Like Us.” It was about a man who was not

close to his recently deceased father who had been a famous musician.

The mother, wife of the famous musician is played by Michelle Pfeiffer,

the young man is played by Chris Pine and there is a woman, played by

Elizabeth Banks, whose son is left money by the musician. Chris Pine’s

character is requested by his father in his will to pursue and find the

woman with her son. It is a tale of humanity and redemption. We

enjoyed it, along with a beautiful song, called, “Dotted Line” sung by

Liz Phair, as the movie ends, credits roll.

I imparted these thoughts to Mark, since I like to analyse movies.

He was a good listener. I then asked what are some of his favorite

movies?

I was hoping to let him talk for awhile, since our food had arrived

and I am a slow salad eater. I have been known to eat for an hour,

when consuming a large salad! This broiled chicken with nuts was

delicious and I really wanted to savor it.

We had under an hour to get to the movie, at this point in time.

We had chosen the only adult movie that seemed like good actors

were in, along with a serious theme. I guess we could not go to

“Cloudy with a Chance of Meatballs 2,” huh?

Mark had suggested going to the movie called, “Prisoners.” The

actors in it were Maria Bello, Hugh Jackman, Jake Gyllenhaal,

Viola Davis and Terence Howard.

(Terence Howard is a favorite of mine, since the movie, “Crash.”

It was nice to see Viola Davis, since she was in “The Help.”)

Mark shared that he likes the Star Trek movies, with Chris Pine in

William Shatner’s role as Captain Kirk. He likes some of the same

British movies, such as “The Constant Gardener” and also, knew

my youngest daughter’s and my favorite Christmas movie, “Love

Actually.” He is not a fan of “Bridget Jones’ Diary” nor “Notting

Hill” and surprisingly, for a serious man, did not ever see “Pride

and Prejudice.” I mentioned that Donald Sutherland is excellent

as the father and that its a family story that includes romance,

history and interesting plot twists, too.

I asked what other movies in the science fiction genre did he enjoy?

Mark informed me that the reason he liked the newer “Star Trek”

movies it was because it was a remake of the t.v. series more than

the fact it was sci-fy. I asked did he like the Sherlock Holmes two

movies with Robert Downey, Jr. and Jude Law in them? The plot has

some WWI references and Germany in the second of the movies. He

had not seen them. I was again thinking seriously and trying to pull

some comments out of him. I asked his had he seen “War Horse” or

the “Die Hard” newest movie. Neither have been seen by him. I was

being met by silence. But he had said he liked movies, over the cell

phone. I came up with another way to find out his likes in movies.

I asked him what was the last movie he had seen?

He could not remember. I dropped the subject.

We talked about his children that are in their twenties and that

was nice to hear that they had a family dinner, they also do like

to play games. They did not play games this weekend, but do

like cards and board games. One is already in his career and his

daughter attends a state college in Ohio. His ex-wife lives in an

older neighborhood here in Delaware and he has bought a smaller

house in a more newer neighborhood. I told him that my last home

had been in Lexington Glen, brief synopsis of where ex was and

how we had decided to sell the house, etc.

The “Prisoners” movie is sad, regrettably. I was not prepared for the

emotions of it, there is a very disgusting, horrific part where one of

the protagonists that you really like, is not nice at all. I was dismayed.

During the whole movie, I would have liked an arm around me. It was

intense and disturbing. I would not recommend watching it with

someone you don’t know nor really paying money to see it. There are

so many other movies out there, better choices. I, unfortunately, had

not read even one review!

We had both agreed ahead about the time and the movie, itself. No

one could be “blamed” or upset at the choice. We left the theatre in

silence, I was not even wanting to discuss the ending. He did ask me

which direction I thought the director could have gone to let us know

how to feel in the end.

I don’t want to sound discouraged. I do think we enjoyed our meal and

the movie has an  “open-ending.” This is what I call a movie that makes

you decide how it will end. You could go either way, a happy ending,

but it seems unlikely. The tone seemed to reflect an unhappy ending.

That would just put the ‘nail in the coffin.’

Mark walked me home and we gave each other a hug. He will call soon,

later in the week, he said.

I did not write anything for a couple days, it is Tuesday after all. I was

not sure if it was the movie, the prying conversation out of a very nice

but quiet man, or what was a little “off.”

We did not cover religion, politics nor sex. We stayed on safe ground

and relatively pleasant but dry conversation. I am smiling with my

best foot forward still in place.

Here was my best summary of the second date with the chemist

from PPG named Mark.

Dinner and a movie, plus a hug.

Are You Ready for October?

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I am so ready! Ravens, owls, pumpkins, scarecrows and colorful

leaves! I enjoyed pulling out my tub of decorations and having my

grandson, Micah, “direct” where items should be placed! We were

setting October things out early for his cousins. I will have some

coming (possibly 4) for an overnight on Sept. 28th. Then they can

see the seasonal extravaganza! We put batteries in all of the

flashlights and we can play hide and seek in the dark.

Micah, age 4, loves these “boo bells” that are metal about 6″ in

diameter. There is an orange sparkly ball and a black sparkly other

ball. They clang!  They have the letters “Boo!” on them. He also liked

pulling out the stack of picture books to add to the September ones

in a pile on the end table.

Micah’s favorite books are the hard cardboard ones that have shapes

of the season, (the pumpkin is round, the witch’s hat is a triangle, etc.)

and colors of the season. I am sure you can picture the joys of all the

colors of “treats” included!

“The Biggest Pumpkin Ever” is another favorite October book, written

by Stephen Kroll and nicely illustrated by Jeni Bassett. There is an

interactive one titled,  “Five Little Pumpkins Sitting on a Gate.” We chant

the words in this book to a slight tune. If you need the words; they are

surely on the internet! Finger play songs are my specialty!

My favorite book is called “The Nutty Nut Chase.” It has all kinds of

cool characters, like “Hickory” and “Pecan.” They are squirrels! Then

there are other helpful woodland critters, like “Badger,” “Hedgehog,”

“Littlest Rabbit,” “Mole” and “Blackbird.” This book is written by

Kathryn White and has such sweetly drawn illustrations by Vanessa

Cabban. There is also a sad part with namecalling of poor “Hedgehog.”

He is left out of a game, since one of the critters calls him a “prickly

cannonball!” It gets resolved in the end, of course!

I like to post about the upcoming month, letting my readers and fellow

bloggers aware of some of the October facts that I have discovered.

I hope this is an interesting read for you today!

OCTOBER

4th-  There will be a New Moon (rising!) Hippies will know that

reference!

6th-  The 2013 Old Farmer’s Almanac advises to “drill holes in

window boxes 1/4 – 1/2″ holes to drain every six inches.” Mums

and zinnias still shoud be going strong during this month.

7th- Child Health Day. Celebrate and encourage any children

who you may know or be related to, to have regular doctor

annual physicals and dental check ups. Also, healthy diets

with plenty of fruits, vegetables and water daily.

9th-  Leif Erickson Day. This Nordic Viking’s discovery of what

is now known as North America,

14th- Columbus Day. The post office will be closed, no mail

delivery, lots of sales here in the U.S. and also, library closed!

18th-  Full Hunter’s Moon.

The Old Farmer’s Almanac says for “best flavor, suggests digging

up horse radish during the full moon.”

And also, today celebrate Alaska Day!

20th-  My friends, Felda and Jason, will have their adorable second

child, baby Zachary, baptized in their Catholic Church. I will be going

to the service and attending my first baptismal filipino celebration

party with my oldest daughter. I included this to ask, if you pray, to

include little “Zachie Poo” and his big six year old sister, Kridia Dawn,

in your prayers. I will post about this event after it occurs!

24th-  United Nations Day. My parents were convinced they were always

“helping the world” when they ordered their UNICEF Christmas cards!

I think this day would be a great one to remember to pray for all the

nations in the world. I have a bookmark with each of the continents

stuck in my Bible, it has me praying in alphabetical order. This may, or

may not, something you may be interested in tryin

25th-  Nevada Day.

(Also, from 25th until ten days later, I will be on vacation! Yeah!)

October 31st is Halloween or Hallowed Eve.

November first is considered the result of the hallowed evening

turning into “All Saints Day.”

Strange, you know “Oct” indicates “eight” or “eighth” so an octopus

has eight legs, an octagon has eight sides. But this October is the

tenth month due to rearranging from Roman calendar to the new

way we do things.

I hope we all make it to be octogenerians! (or older!)

Instead of October poetry, I chose a different direction to go with

the word and how you can find it in only four movies, where the

word October is in the first place position.

1.  “October” (1928).  A Russian movie, based on John Reed’s “Ten

Days That Shook the World” book. It is a historical movie that

includes the massacre that was around St. Petersburg bridges.

2.  “October Man” (1947).  A British movie that is a suspenseful

mystery and character study. It is based on Eric Ambler’s book.

3.  “October Sky” (1999).  American movie that is featuring how

a real boy who heard and saw the film footage of the famous

1957 Sputnik space event and how he chose to use this historical

event to guide his life. Homer Hickman, Jr. grew up in a West

Virginia coal mining town, where his father was a coal miner and

was dismayed at his son’s “dreams” of space. He builds rockets

with some of his friends. This movie (and the next listed) are the

only ones I have seen. The cast of famous actors include Jake

Gyllenhaal, Chris Cooper and Laura Dern. This was a very heart-

warming movie. Homer goes against his father’s wishes and

also, accomplishes a better life. Including writing the book,

“Rocket Boys.” I would highly recommend this movie!

4.  “Octopussy” (1983). This is the second British movie in the

list. Roger Moore plays spy and agent, James Bond. Maud

Adams plays the sexy lead character whose name is the title

of the movie.  I remember feeling it was an entertaining and

adventurous action movie. I will always prefer Sean Connery

as “007,” though! (Louis Jourdan also a cast member, is a

famous French actor who my mother always thought was

“suave and debonair.”

If you would like to look up an October favorite short poem

and add it in the comments, please feel free! Enjoy the

wonderful month of October with all of its beautiful colors

showing, at least here in the northern mid-western states.

Has Canada already had their gorgeous trees changed, by

now?