I received Mom’s card, that she bought in the downstairs area of her senior living
apartments, at the end of last week. This is called the ‘library’ where you can choose
to borrow, return or give books and pick out greeting cards. There is an ‘honor code,’
where you go to the nearby Front desk to pay for the cards or check out the books.
This card, and its message, really made my day this week!
It was one of those simple ones that talk about friendship. She vacillates between
saying that I am her ‘best friend’ and missing her faithful little dog, Nicki, (her ‘other
These notes, I realize I have mentioned, hold important feelings that she shares
with me, her only daughter. I am touched with her added embellishments, sincerely
expressed ideas and loving memories of our special ‘girlfriend’ visits and shopping
She writes to many people, her words are less descriptive and their clarity may not
always be there. Time has taken some of her training in spelling, grammar and English
usage away. But the essence of love shines through to all of her recipients of letters.
Her good friend, Joyce, who will always be known as “Pooky” to those who love her,
wrote her a long typed (on the computer and printed out) letter. In this, she was
supporting my Mom’s asking to be able to have her dog back. Nicki is residing with
my brother and sister in law, with multiple dogs, on a ‘better, healthier’ diet and
regime. Their main concern was that Mom had fallen, so they felt with her new
walker, therapy visits and trying to manage Nicki with the walker may do more
‘harm than good.’ “Pooky” lives in California and I have written her notes to
keep her abreast of my Mom’s current health status, along with over the years,
many holiday cards. She is a good and true, lifelong friend of my Mom’s.
“Pooky” sent a clever list which has some fun, but often expressed, ideas about
growing older, includes positive life lessons and ways to stay young.
On the top of the first page, my Mom had handwritten these sweet words:
“You know all of these, my Robin, but it never hurts to be reminded of them. . .
To my best friend in the world!”
“How to Stay Young
Friend to Friend Advice”
1. Try everything twice.
On one woman’s grave, the epitaph reads:
“Tried everything twice. Loved it both times!”
2. Keep only cheerful friends.
The Grouches pull you down.
Keep this in mind, if you are one of those Grouches!
3. Keep learning.
Whatever it is that stimulates your brain cells and keeps
your mind active.
4. Enjoy the simple things in life.
The little ‘details’ can make you happy.
5. Laugh often.
Belly laughs, long and loud.
Laugh until you gasp for breath or tears run down your face.
If someone produces this level of joy, spend lots and lots of
time with them.
6. Sad things and tears happen.
Endure, grieve and move on.
The only person who is with us, our entire life, is ourselves.
Live while you are alive.
7. Surround yourself with whatever you love:
Family, pets, keepsakes, music, art, crafts, plants. . .
Make your home a retreat or refuge.
8. Cherish your health.
If it is good- preserve it.
If it is unstable- improve it.
If it is beyond what you can improve, get help.
You are still here.
9. Don’t take guilt trips.
Take instead trips down memory lane, to the mall or to a new place.
If you can afford to, travel far and wide. If your health does not permit
this, wander through countries in books or on the Internet.
10. Tell the people you love that you love them every time you see them.
Every opportunity, try to show your gratitude towards them.
(Author Unknown, some embellishments are my own added to the list.)
So here goes, I am following the ‘rules’ laid out in the life list! I wish to tell you
again, that I appreciate your being part of my life. I think that our community
of fellow bloggers satisfies many things on the examples mentioned. So, in
honor for #s 3, 4, 7 and 10, I am thankful for your enhancing and enriching
You fill in the gaps in my life, helping me to utilize my brain daily.
We talk, through our posts and replies, about things and share our worlds.
Your thoughts and feelings bring us closer together. Sometimes more than
my friends I spend time with. Maybe it is the safety of being separated by
time and space. Maybe it is due to being sojourners in a world of our own
Fellow bloggers you brings my inner thoughts and respond positively, for that:
I thank you!
Maybe it is the way we bounce off each other, spurring each other to reach out
and connect on a different level than most daily interactions.
To those poets out there, thanks for treating me to your beautiful (sometimes
angry, distressed but always meaningful) words. You have inspired me to try
my hand at writing poetry. It is a different way of writing than I am used to!
To the artists out there, whether using paint, pen and ink, photography or
other creative and artistic ways you lead your life, I appreciate your sharing
this with me. The ‘details’ of life that you give to me, through your art and
music, are limitless!
To the ones who incorporate animals, healing solutions, share your faith and
other ways to connect and feel whole; your posts make me feel good and lead me
to peace in my heart and soul.
Those nature lovers and healthy lifestyle believers, you make me want to be
more interactive in environmental issues and eat more healthier. The cooking
blogs and vegan choices are certainly ones that I copy down suggestions and
feel that I have become more aware of what I am ingesting!
Then those who have traveled or are out there, living in different countries,
letting us know what is happening, Thank you!
It makes the world come together and become a ‘smaller’ place, uniting us in our
Wow! The inspiration in the gifts you all share, continue to amaze and challenge
me to be a better ‘me!’