Category Archives: Mother Theresa

Leaps of Faith

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Are you hanging onto something (job, friend, partner, possessions…

fill in the blank) too tightly, like a security blanket? There are several

people who have taught me how to “let go” recently! If you are “stuck

in a rut” or just “spinning your wheels” and stalled out, here is a word

of encouragement. I have some fine examples of people, some who

happen to be my friends, who have kick-started their lives. These

include life-changing experiences with very motivating stories!

The first one, who always comes to mind, is Mike Lince, who along with

his wife, Florence, sold their homes, cars, and possessions to become

world travelers.

Here is his blog name, “Applecore” and his site to read and get excited

about transitions and new adventures!

http://globalexplorerclub.wordpress.com

Another person, a dear friend since 1994 or so, Carla, also sold her

car and possessions, let her ex-husband take over their home and

moved out to California from Ohio! I am always pleased to see how

well she has been adapting out there in Sacramento, having followed

her only son, Nick. He just graduated in 2013 and got a great job in a

labratory of a major international company. They have found an OSU

alumni public place that shows the gameS. This new “hang out” allows

for them to enjoy food, drinks and camaraderie with other Ohio

transplants! Also, they recently saw the bulls run down the roads in

Sacramento like they do in Spain! There is a great deal of history, art

and exciting activities, Carla has discovered to enjoy and learn more

about their new “home.”

My good male friend who I have always left “unnamed” since he has a

rather torrid and emotional past, along with a woman who possesses

him, told me a shocking revelation! (If you want the back story, look

up “She Put a Price Tag on Their Love.”) This man thinks he may break

the ‘bondage’ that he feels he is obligated and owes her more than

he could afford to repay her, I can hear the strains of Journey’s song,

“Separate Ways” and the repeated words: “Go! GO!”  There is a line in

that particular song that says to “break the chains that bind you!” He is

thinking of moving to North Carolina! I was amazed, since he has some

siblings here in Ohio and he has his three daughters in California. If he

were to move to a warmer climate, I would have definitely expected

him to head West; not South!

I asked him, did you learn your lesson? It is a crime to “rob” your heart

and soul! I would hope he would not be back for more… if so, he would

be like a “recidivist” in my mind! He needs to take control of his life

and not be used. I would definitely say this to a woman, tread carefully

with this man, though. I think it is an embarassing part of our friendship

and not sure if he will remain in touch, once the move is completed.

Another woman, who has chosen travel, along with missionary work,

has been in Singapore and Taiwan, teaching English and working for

free. This elderly, but not feeble, woman is a member of my church.

Babs Tull is over eighty years old! I am thankful to read her letters that

are posted in our church bulletin.

This is something I want to add, “you are never to old to learn or try

something new!” I was very pleased when several years ago, I found

out there was an elderly woman who wrote a book past her eightieth

birthday. I was in a book club and the book featured for the month was,

“And Ladies of the Club.” It was set in Ohio and the author was Helen

Hooven Santmyer.

I could go on endlessly with famous people who have been inspiring due

to their courage to make a difference and take a stand. Ghandi, Mother

Theresa and Nelson Mandela, come to mind. Awesome individuals who

did not let their age define them!

We are all striving in our blogs to join in a community of writers, some of

us wish to publish someday. I am sure you have read of many rejection

letters that famous writers have received. Many of their stories are well

known and very motivating.

My last example of life changing experiences, is taken from a wonderful

and inspiring movie, “Salmon Fishing in the Yemen.” It is a fictional but

realistically depicted movie with the characters’ roles well played by Ewan

Mc Gregor, Kristin Scott Thomas and Emily Blunt. The sheik who funds

this monumental project is played by Amr Waked. This fascinating plot

is very emotional, too. Why list this movie? The two characters are so

very different from the beginning of the movie in their depictions and

the way their lives are led to the ending of the tale, where their lives

have transformed. There is redemption, all kinds of revelations and

the main message I received was: Don’t be afraid to try anything!

Please feel free, if you have ever restarted your life, relocated to a

whole different locale, rekindled a flame, or changed careers to let

us in on your decision! Let us know what hurdles you surpassed

and include us in your life changing actions!

My final message to you as I finish this post is: Don’t cling to nor hang

on to ANYTHING that is not bringing you to a place of Grace, Peace,

Enlightenment or (filling your cup with overflowing) Bliss!

Silence

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There are so many times that everyone should indulge in the

serenity of silence. The moments that mean the most can be

conducted in silence. Praise and worship is a fine and beautiful

example. Another time it means so much to share silence is

when you are running to greet someone you have not seen

for quite awhile. I have felt speechless, watching couples and

families reuniting at the airport. I then, spying my youngest

daughter, feel that squeeze of the heart, those tears starting

to burst forward when I spy her across the crowd.

That soundless, but so special, moment, hugging and holding

your loved one cannot be matched with a lot of chatter and

needless words.

When you look deeply into someone’s eyes, words are rarely

needed. The look that a new mother has while studying and

closely gazing into her newborn baby’s fluttering eyes is

wordless. That moment can  be equally matched by the father

seeing his baby and holding that precious bundle.

When do you feel the most like having a wordless period of time?

Here is a wonderful quote from Mother Theresa:

“God is the friend of silence.

See how nature, trees, flowers, grass grows in silence;

See how the stars, moon and the sun, how  they

move in silence.

We need silence to be able to touch souls.”

I felt the need to be tranquil last night, I turned my cell

phone to muted. I decided to not read, not look at my blog

nor watch the television. I was alone for about an hour. I

was lying on the floor looking at the ceiling and trying to free

my mind from all my thoughts that kept trying to push their

way into my quiet time. They were invading my privacy with

assailing me with thoughts!

There is another side of silence that I would like to plunge

into. Sometimes, those negative thoughts start to creep in,

invading your peaceful moments, and suddenly taking away

the joy that you need to nourish your brain and your rested,

relaxed body.

Silence has not worked with the one who hurt me more than

twice. Not replying to emails, having blocked his cell phone,

and not breaking down and reciprocating the emails. None of

this have worked. Silence. No replies at all: not working!

My grandmother (mother’s mother) used the “silent treatment”

on her husband, my dear grandpa. He would be puzzled, he

would ignore the silence, and she would conduct daily activities

around the silence. She would break into the silence to ask one of

her two daughters, “Amelia, tell your father it’s dinner time.” My

mother also would be brought into the “conspiracy” and asked to

tell her Dad that he needed to ‘stop by the store after work to pick

up milk for the family.’

My mother told me sometimes days would pass before something

would “break the silence” between her parents!

I don’t want to “break the silence.” But, if I did, I would not be using

the rant I wrote about rather living in a zoo with the monkeys. No,

my serious thoughts in silence form sentences that are more likely

to be powerful.  Maybe, if possible, it would stop the person who

wants to invade my life. He wants to try to continue to irritate while

“staying friends.”

Here is my piece or my peace, depending on the interpretation of

the words that follow:

“Out of over 250 days together passed in close range and filled with

possible moments to cherish, only five to seven days were you ever

fully engaged. There were only less than a week’s worth of days’

time that you were thinking of us, every moment, spent together.”

“You were only “fully mine” and we were completely both happy

for that short period of time. The endless calls, the daily constant

contact with your other female friends was never-ending. There

were not many days that you would ignore their calls.”

I would like to take those golden, splendid days, that I used to take

out as a goal, as the HOPE that kept me going, burning themselves

into my memory bank and throw them out. I want to stop dusting

them off and holding them up for scrutiny, reveling in their brightness.

I think that I would like to have them fade away, I would like them to

get old and tattered like a piece of old newspaper with announcements

that did not last. They should fade fast into darkness and turn black

soon.

I carried the “hurt” heart (and those feelings) for so long that I need to

let them go, as I pray and hope you will let me go. I need to make lots

of room for Joy!”

Contacting him and saying these words would keep the door open, I am

afraid. So, I need to write these words, print them up and read them

until I believe them and then, burn them. And slam that door in my

brain shut and lock it, then throw away the key!