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The Opposite of Fix is to Break

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As a counterpoint essay on a subject opposite of the “fix” post, I thought that it

would be fun to use the word, “broke” and all of its variations. This will follow the

pattern that I used last time, analysis, wordplay and include a popular song, which

has an unusual use of ‘broke’ within its lyrics. Like last time, I would like you to

help me to determine if this detracts from the friendly, caring tone it is trying to

set. I feel the One Direction’s song, “The Story of My Life,” is quite lively and goes

at such a quick pace, that you may not have noticed the words I heard the other

day.

If you watched, “American Idol,” 2014, you may have caught Alex Preston

singing this song. I am not sure, since they edit the song to fit a timed format,

if it included the phrase that concerns me. I will show the passages before this

and let you know by using *s to indicate the phrase which include the word,

“broke inside.”

“The Story of My Life”

The story of my life,

I take her home

I drive all night to keep her warm

And time is frozen

(the story, the story)

The story of my life,

I give her hope

*I spend her love

until she’s broke inside.”*

I found myself pondering this long and hard. It seems that the author loves

and cares for the woman, but then that just feels like hurtful words to say

in amongst the love messages. It seems rather ‘cold’ instead of depicting

‘warm’ feelings.

What do you think? Let me know…

The words, “break, broke, break-up and broken” all have a variety of

definitions. Most have emotions and feelings attached. I allowed myself

to add “Heartbreak” to this post, while listing positive and negative

meanings.  I had several positive reactions to the “fix” post, so hope

you will like some of the brain-storming that my coworkers did between

the first post and this one.

POSITIVE uses of the variations of “Break, etc.”

We all enjoy ‘breaks!’

From school- Summer Vacation!

From work- Vacation!

During school-

Recess,

Gym,

Music,

Art

and

Lunch.

At work in an office- The Water Cooler.

Almost all jobs have Vending Machines for snacks.

Lunch,

Break-time

and

Daily stretches.

Some of us wished we lived where “Siestas” were a daily afternoon event!

Breaking bad habits (always a positive)

Break from Ordinary Routines = Extraordinary Experiences.

Making a “clean break” is good from a bad relationship.

When two people are having some rough patches, they may wish to “take a break.”

When two people are in a committed relationship and are raising children, they

may wish to have a “break” which is otherwise known as, “Date Night!”

A “break” during a long movie or play is called “Intermission.”

When you are putting all your money into the Pot, in a game, you may say these

words, “I’m going for Broke!”

“Breaking barriers” is a good way to allow communication and relationships

between cultures, countries or other situations to grow and develop.

“Breaking Bad” was a good and entertaining television show.

“Breaking the Ice” is also good, to allow people to have more fun. One game

that was an “ice breaker,” in the old days, while a teenager, was “Spin the

Bottle.” One my parents ‘approved of,’ was “Twister!”

NEGATIVE uses of the word, “Break, etc.”

Being “broke” (when not playing a game of Monopoly) is a bad thing.

Being ’emotionally broke’ may mean you are empty inside or possibly

unemotional.

“The Break Up” was the title of a not so funny movie with Jennifer Anniston

and Vince Vaughn. (Maybe it was just me!)

Melvin mentioned that one of his favorite Clint Eastwood ‘war themed movies,’

was “Heartbreak Ridge.”

Broken hearts are so sad.

Broken engagements may leave one of the two parties involved, happier. One

much sadder.

Broken objects.

Cars broke down or breaking down.

Broken bones do hurt.

(Sticks and stones may break your bones,

And words DO hurt you, too!)

Marriage Break Up’s:

1. Accidental-

Unplanned, fall out of love, curiosity or boredom

may lead to an affair. Lack of interest with partner.

Situational and sometimes out of anger or a rash

reaction.

2. Intentional-

Separation. One or both parties chooses to leave.

Counseling ‘didn’t work.’ Too many problems, wide

disparity in personalities.

3. Emotional-

Grow apart. Reaching a breaking point. Some habits

that are not mutual, possibly addictions. The statistics

for two people, raising a child with disabilities, chances

of divorce goes from the “norm” of 50% up to 75%.

Stress and depression can be part of this ‘break up.’

When you ‘tame a horse,’ you have to ‘break’ them of

their freedom. I put this under negatives, but can see

it going either way. Depends on the perspective, the

horse or the owner.

I loved the way my coworkers helped me to compile a

list of songs with ‘heart break’ as its core. If you wish to

add some more, please do so in the comments section.

1.  “How Do You Mend a Broken Heart?”

This song was released in 1971, by the Bee Gees. Robin

and Barry Gibb mainly are the ones who wrote the lyrics.

2.  “Heartbreak Hotel”

This song was released on January 27, 1956 by Elvis Presley.

3.  “Heartbreak Hotel”

This song, totally different from Elvis’ in its lyrics and melody,

was released in 1998 by Whitney Houston.

4.  “I Can’t Make You Love Me”

Sung by Bonnie Raitt, more recently by Adele. Written in 1991.

4.  “Heartbreaker”

This was an exciting title for many famous songs!

a. Led Zeppelin, in 1969, English rock band.

b. Pat Benatar in 1979, totally different song.

c. Dionne Warwick in 1982, another song.

d. Mariah Carey in 1999, another song.

e. Justin Bieber in 2013, his own song.

Lastly, when googling this subject, I had no idea it would include

such a diverse group of performers singing the one I knew best,

Pat Benatar’s, which also was sung by Jena Irene, on “American

Idol,” 2014. We cannot go too far on this, it would generate a

whole other post!

5.  “Don’t Go Breaking My Heart”

a. First title song, one I did not remember was Dionne Warwick’s

singing this in 1976. This was written by Burt Bacharach and Hal David.

The one that I saw performed in Cincinnati at what was then called,

Riverside Stadium was written by Elton John and Bernie Taupin. It

was with two ‘youngsters’ born in the same year of 1947:

Elton John and Kiki Dee.

6.  “Cecilia”

Sung by Simon and Garfunkel. This song was on their album in 1970.

An ‘oldie but goodie!’

The first line in the song goes like this, “Cecilia, you’re breaking

my heart. You’re breaking my confidence daily….”

(Notice two uses of the word, ‘breaking.’)

The part where the man gets up to use the bathroom and comes

back to bed, to find someone else taking his place; made us all laugh

hysterically, thinking that we had gotten away with listening to this

rather wild, risqué song! (And our parents had all liked S & G!)

7. “Achy Breaky Heart”

First sung in 1991, by the Marcy Brothers. Don Von Tress wrote this

song, that was later made famous by Billy Ray Cyrus, of course!

What song would you include from the band,

Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Music goes ’round and ’round

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I was so excited to have a great First Friday with my best guy

friend, Bill! You can check out probably over a dozen stories

about the ‘Man Who Knew My Daughter First!’ We have good food,

deep conversations and ‘pick up where we left off’ thoughts,

at our monthly gatherings. We had poor weather, gusts of up to

37 miles an hour (meteorologist, supposedly, “fact”) so we did

not go walking around downtown Delaware, Ohio.

We started right into Bill’s favorite subject, Music!

I am a rather musical person, a mediocre history of attempting

to play the clarinet for over 8 years, in all forms of ‘bands.’

I was a member of the Pep band, Concert band, Symphonic band,

Bay High marching band and both North Olmsted’s elementary and

Bay’s middle school bands. I know music, can “Name That Tune,”

many times over, but I have a ‘tin’ ear when it comes to

actually playing the clarinet from memory or using my left

hand on the piano!

Bill introduced me to a bright and witty singer from Australia.

On Youtube, on his cell phone, sitting in his car, that is!

Her name is Courtney Barnett. She has a huge following from

the UK and America, but is an international ‘star.’ She is

funny, irreverent, including lyrics that are just so far out

you may burst into laughter. She uses a ‘dead pan’ voice,

seemingly without any energy, but her creativity makes it

exciting, anyway! Bill was sitting in my parking lot a half

hour early, never letting on he was there, listening to her

song called, “Avant Gardener.” This young and talented singer

was born in 1988. She has been ‘around’ the musical circuit

since 2011. I feel her cleverness outweighs my ‘need’ to hear

a beautiful voiced song of perfection. Her lyrics included

her yard being a mess, supposing neighbors may think they run

a ‘meth lab,’ all in a video you may find on youtube with a

group of tennis players lobbing balls all around her.

When we got on the road to dinner, we talked about work. I was

disheartened by a really ‘poor monthly review’ at my dear old

Advance Auto. It all arose from my saying three weeks’ ago,

as I was leaving, off the clock, to a manager who exclaimed,

“You are leaving at only 8:30 A.M.!” (We usually work, while

it is a regular schedule, four nine hour days and a four hour

Friday. I had worked only from 6 a.m. until then. Two and a

half hours.)

I exclaimed, using what I felt was a rather light hearted tone,

“Yeah! I have to go to the bank and withdraw savings lately to

pay my bills.”

But, really, this is considered the slow period, where we work

less. I know this, going on six years there… I was not

really complaining! I like our slow times, since if you have

followed me since last summer, we usually work 10-11 hours in a

grueling hot, non-air-conditioned warehouse. I store up my extra

overtime money. I save it like a squirrel and his ‘nut’ but I

don’t like having to dip into it so regularly.

At my monthly meeting, I heard that this said manager had gone

into his Friday meeting complaining that he needed people like

me to work with his department. Why didn’t I volunteer to help

them out? Why wasn’t I a “Team Player?” They are ‘cheap’ at my

company and don’t hire temps in receiving area, where they

are scrambling to add merchandise, preparing as they annually

do, to get ready for the Rush Season! Cars are repaired in the

Spring, Summer and Fall!

But our Winter has held on to us, this year, particularly.

I have only been asked once to work over, personally, for the

department of receiving. I told them that I had a special once

a week lunch waiting with my best girlfriend, Jenny, who is a

retired teacher. I even go so far as to add, that I get treated

to crab salad on croissants or German Chocolate pancakes with

a gooey, delicious cream cheese ‘syrup’ concoction. I could

NEVER give up my afternoons with Jenny, (unless heading North

to Cleveland over Easter weekend to see my Mom, for example.)

In my review, prepared by my boss’ boss, I was given ‘average’

scores almost all the way down. The only compliment given,

despite my ‘production rate’ of 106 % and my quality control

‘score’ of 100 %. (Where we can get a 95 % in the first area

and a 98 % to be “acceptable” and get our raise.)

I was quite dismayed to see my monthly review was not present

on my boss’ desk, where I make between a 2.8 to 3.0 (perfect

‘score.’)

I read aloud, “2.2? Why?”

He said, I was not volunteering for other areas of overtime,

I was not volunteering to be one of the two positions on the

safety committee, and that I had been ‘complaining’ to someone

recently.

This was not like my best two young bosses in my lifetime

history of reviews.

Jake would have said, “You do an awesome job of going wherever

we tell you to go!”

Katrina, (whose grandmother passed away so that is why she was

not here to do this monthly review, one on one…) said just

last month,

“You are a positive person who helps others and keeps us all

feeling better being here.”

I had never heard quite these simple, but encouraging words in

my very positive years of teaching annual reviews. I had told

first, Jake, who was in his twenties, my first boss at the

warehouse, meaning every word:

“You are the best boss ever! I love the idea of potlucks and

your monthly meetings are very short and helpful.”

Katrina was given the same level of compliments, after I

received hers. It was a mutually beneficial experience for

the two of us.

I was ready to weep at my almost below average review!

Bill told me, in his warm and helpful way, to ignore Mike’s

comments, to move forward, and try to volunteer for something

more. I told him that I had written in the comments’ section

of the review that I was willing to be trained to do “E-Comm”

and to learn how to pick orders in the “Master Mod.”

(E-commerce is one where you pick what someone who logged onto

Advance Auto orders for their home or car. Master Mod is what

we call this new structure that you have to pick specialty

orders in a master module.)

Bill said, “That should do it!”

But, ever the worrier, I told Bill,

“We have our annual review this month! If Mike does it, I

may not get my raise! What should I do, if this happens?”

Bill, who was a bins manager, shipping manager and has

worked there for 41 years since he was only 20 years old,

suggested I just let it go. I would ‘keep my job.’

I wanted to go above him, find someone who would look at

my hard job work record and reward me. He and I hope to

have my immediate boss’ review. But, so far, she is back,

but the other guy is doing them!

Here is another musical connection that we made! We both

used to listen to Nickel Creek. I listened since my kids

were teenagers. He had listened because he had heard a

recommendation from Allison Krauss. This young group earned

five Grammy awards and have five albums out.

I told Bill they have been playing since they were very

young, having been trained in stringed musical instruments

by the same fine teacher. They are now, in their thirties,

but, when they started, were only around 8-10 years old!

Their first ‘gigs’ were playing in a pizza place in Carlsbad,

California.

I would wish you to listen to their earlier, very sweet and

melodic voices that are accompanied by guitars, violin and

even a mandolin! I also encourage you to listen to Nickel

Creek’s newest album, “A Dotted Life.” In it there is a

wonderful song called, “Destination.” Ironically, it was

featured on CBS Today (Saturday, April 5, 2014). You can

watch the show or check out their songs on youtube. I also

liked the fact that they are coming ‘back’ after a seven

year hiatus. They had felt burned out after all the years

playing together. This trio will break your hearts, with

the tugging of the stringed instruments. They will rouse

you with joy, sounding like angels harmonizing. The song,

“Destination” has the only female, featured singing. The

song, “Rest of my Life” has one of the male voices being

chosen to lead the song. The names of this fine group are

Sara Watkins, Sean Watkins and Chris Thile ( The mandolin

player; along with the others knowing all kinds of stringed

instruments.)

In our conversation, Bill and I talked about his friends,

Denny and Rick, who play together with their guitars and

sing. Bill has sung and played since a teenager and got

some of his musical talent from his parents, but also liked

rock and roll in his little high school band. He has many

talents, including art and the ability to understand the

challenging subject of philosophy. He is my ‘zen’ and I

(he says) am his ‘rock.’ Bill told me that Denny and he

were working on some of the popular Everly Brothers’ songs.

He said, “All I Have to Do… (is Dream)” was one they really

harmonized well on. I asked him if the three of them were

going to ‘play out,’ anytime soon? He told me it may just

be Denny and he playing together at local spots.

An interesting set of facts, how our lives have been tightly

intertwined for years is, I have known Bill’s friends forever!

I knew Ricky and Danny first from Denny. Denny and his wife,

Cathy, have a son, Shawn, who I babysat during those ‘stay at

home’ years.

They set me up with a man named “Danny” who I call, “Daniel”

in my month of dating 3 Dan’s. I have known Rick and Danny,

also, through my four years as an Activities Director at a

nursing home. I knew their parents, was there at both their

memorial services and funerals. Interestingly, I didn’t notice,

but Bill was there at them, too. Denny and Cathy’s son, was in

my son’s kindergarten class. Three of Bill’s children have known

two of my children… since the 90’s!

Not only does music go ’round and ’round, but life seems to,

also!

The final song, I wish to impart with you, has been recently

sung on “American Idol” television song, by Alex Preston. He did

an outstanding job in his performance! This is One Direction’s

“Story of my Life.” The words are running constantly through my

head, at work, as I walk and sometimes right before I settle in

to sleep. For some reason, despite the fact that I feel it is a

‘rushed song’ with some lack of real emotional ‘connection’ to

the audience, I love it! The way it is sung, is like a recitation

of life, including a difficult love affair. The Irish-British

band has had the song playing since October, 2013. It resonates

with me, on a deeper level, due to the lyrics.

Does anyone else find this to be true?

What songs are you listening to recently that have touched you,

to the very core?