There once was a girl who was from a different elementary school from my children’s
school. There are five elementary schools, hers was Conger, my kids went to Smith.
She lived across the street from us, she became ‘fast friends’ one summer, when she
found out my youngest daughter was going to Willis Middle School in the fall with
her. We had just moved in, when they met on the sidewalk. Soon, the two girls were
inseparable. They would go down to the pool, they would go to Blue Limestone Park
and travel around the neighborhood, upon their bikes.
This girl is named Holly, my daughter is Felicia. They would call each other up, on
land line telephones. I look at my same land line phone, set up in my current apt. and
remember that there was a chair in our foyer, this white telephone with its gold edges
and push button numbers was one I have a photograph with Felicia talking to the girl
who lived across the street. Why weren’t they visiting, instead of on the phone? I am
not sure but this was an age when ‘grounding’ occurred, sometimes as the meted out
Soon Holly would call up and ask what we were having for dinner, she liked the way
I ‘grilled’ the hot dogs in butter in a skillet, the way I used a can of spaghetti sauce,
(Hunts brand, mushroom sauce) adding oregano, basil and onion salt. She thought
it was fun to come over and eat dinner, sometimes lingering around in the back yard
with Felicia, pretending they were acrobats and other imaginary circus players on
our wooden ‘gym set.’ Often, one or the other home would be the place they had a
These two friends went through high school, joining soccer and basketball together,
along with their separate interests. Felicia quit soccer, to become a Cross Country
runner, Holly became a cheerleader. They shared a lot of common thoughts and
goals. They both were runners-up, or ‘contestants’ for Homecoming Queen, their
senior year. They shared a great graduation party held at the Delaware County
Fair, where the cost of $200 was divided up amongst five good and solid friends.
All five girls went off to college, staying in touch, going and visiting each other’s
The first of the original five friends is getting married today. I have to choose
between three dresses to wear, my youngest daughter wishes me to wear the
longest, new dress. It is a sleeveless dress, with cream, pastel peach, tan and
black details geometric dress. She helped me choose it a young people’s
clothing store, called “Forever Twenty-One.” I have a beautiful autumn mid-
length dress I wore at my son’s wedding six years ago. It has a brighter fall
colors palette with a lovely sweater I could wear over it. I have only worn it
twice. Once on a date and possibly today. The third choice of dresses is a
right below the knee dress, with more ‘pizzazz’ which I have never worn;
like the first choice. It has a jeweled burnt orange diamond that makes my
bodice area look more fuller, with the way it creates folds on both sides of
the diamond. It has the deepest autumn colors which includes swirls and
paisley designs. I went from the pastels in the first, the medium tones in
the second and the deeper ‘jewel’ tones in the last one, with a brighter
orange, olive green and cream background. Each one I will probably wear
gray or tan hose, black velvet pumps and they are about 3 inches high. I
don’t like the brown purse, brown set of shoes I tried all three on, although
you would think they would ‘match’ the fall colors, the black outlines in
each dress seems to need black shoes and purse.
My best girlfriend, Jenny, and I were discussing the 3:30 wedding and
the evening reception. It is not going to start much past 5:00 since even
the longest wedding would not go on that long. She left the length question
unanswered, as a good friend she just said, “Wear whichever you feel you
look best in. Don’t worry about the length.”
After looking at George Clooney and recent bride, Amal’s wedding photos,
studying the guests, I saw no one except the bridal party wearing long
dresses. It put doubts into my youngest daughter’s reassurances about the
sleeveless dress, the first choice I described. Since today’s high may be too
cool to take off the sweater chosen for this dress. (Black with black with gold
edged buttons.) I have a burnt orange colored stone necklace for the two
other dresses, which was made by an artist, looks very stunning with v-neck
dresses, as the two mid-length and knee-length dresses.
My youngest daughter is not a bridesmaid in this wedding, not sure of who
was chosen, since I will find out when I go to the wedding. Felicia was chosen
to read the quotation taken from the end of the 2001 “Love Actually” British
movie. It is meaningful, powerful and brings tears to my eyes. About airports,
greetings and partings, how the world changed for some from 9/11/01 World
Trade Center bombings, but how people still embrace and have hope for Love.
White lace and promises, most may remember is taken from that all-time
favorite wedding song of the 70’s through today by the Carpenters:
“We’ve Only Just Begun.”
Memories of a friendship that traveled over the years, through thick and
thin, to transformation of closeness and dear friendship to where they are
right now, Felicia will have a special and meaningful place in the story.
It will be forever changed when Holly marries Nate today on October 4, 2014.
They dated for four years, they have been engaged for a year now and own a
Best wishes for happiness to the Bride (who is like a daughter) and Groom!
Makes me hum the song, “Through the Years,” which Kenny Rogers sang.